Post # 1
Just want to know if I am alone in this, and I kinda know I’m not. My FMIL drives me nuts. In some ways we get along but she is always giving unwanted “advice” and being controlling (ex. she re-arranges things in our house). Anyone else have issues with FMIL?
Post # 3
I don’t have issues really, she is a lovely lady and I usually enjoy spending time with her. We aren’t super close and I would never consider her a second mother or anything like that but I consider myself lucky that we get along well. She can get on my nerves though, especially when she does something quite different to how my own family would do something (e.g. at a small party she had for our engagement she announced to everyone that the champagne was very expensive – I find that unnecessary and awkward but his family is a lot more open about money than mine). I really feel for the people with nightmare in laws, it must be horrible!!
Post # 4
Just a different perspective-
Love mine, she is like a really good friend. She does re-arrange things in our house, but usually in a good way. I have zero design sense, and her ideas usually work better. Sometimes they don’t, so we just change it back. I figure she has much more experience at making a house work than I do, so I usually take what works from her advice. She has so much energy though- she is always doing something, and I just can’t keep up!
My IL’s stayed at our house for a few days after the wedding while we were on the honeymoon, and we came back to a sparkling clean house! It was really nice to have someone help us out during such a crazy time. We are still finding things that she worked on- I don’t know how she had the energy after all the craziness of the wedding.
Post # 5
Love, love, love her. She’s amazing!
Post # 6
My FMIL & I are so close. We go out together, and she comes into town to go out to lunch with me and chat. My FI’s parents live about 2 hours away from me, so I’ll go and stay with them for a weekend and lay around and watch movies with his mama. I love her.
Post # 7
Voted Other: I dont actually have anything to do with her . Have only seen her a few times she lives in a differant city.
Post # 8
@ lemondrop- sometimes I do like when she organizes things but once she rearranged our sock and underwear drawers.
@ yourastonefox- ithink if they lived 2 hrs away we would get along with them beautifully! We see them about 3 times a week.
Don’t get me wrong, I love her and we can talk for hours on end. Sometimes her “helpful comments” just get to me.
Post # 9
love her! She’s my east coast mom
Post # 10
So glad to see that a lot of girls seem to get along with the FMIL. I can live through you bees!
Post # 11
We’re actually closer than my mom and I are a lot of times, although my mom hasn’t been too bad lately. There were definitely some times in my late teens that my FMIL stepped up when I really needed it, and she & FFIL have truly made me part of the family.
We do argue about certain things (she’s really opinionated) so religion, etc, can sometimes be an issue, but no relationship is perfect.
Post # 12
We used to get along really well; I considered her a second mother. We would lunch, go shopping, she would cook for me……and then FI and I got engaged.
Needless to say, things are not the same
Post # 13
We get along super well and I expect we will continue to grow closer, but they live in a different state so I don’t see her much.
Post # 14
I love my FMIL… couldn’t have asked for a better one. 🙂
Post # 15
I am putting “Other”, because I honestly have no feelings about the woman.
We have talked for about 10 minutes total in the entire three years that Joe and I have dated. One time Joe was bowling, and she came and picked me up when my alternator belt snapped on the highway right by his parents house. It was SUPER AWKWARD. Oh my god. It was terrible.
At that point we had been dating like 1.5 years, and she said to me “You know, everyone thought that Joe and [Ex’s Name] were going to get married.” Like, totally effin’ randomly. WHAT? Thanks lady.
Honestly, I think I just kind of freak her out, because I am an tall, American indian hipster girl from the city, and she’s a short little blond cheerleader from the suburbs.
Post # 16
Love her to death. Like the mom I never had. She even threw me my bridal shower because she knew I don’t have family here and except for MOH everyone I know is pretty much from out-of-state.
She’s by no means a perfect human being, but she is gosh darn nice to me!