How & when to tell my boss?

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
5674 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would tell them you are pregnant around 15 weeks when most of your co-workers will start to figure it out anyways. But don’t tell them you are not returning after the baby. Wait until you maternity leave nears and then provide them with a 2 weeks notice.

Post # 4
3009 posts
Sugar bee

@roweboat:  I told my boss the day I found out- we are close. I was then absorbed onto a new team and told my new boss at 10w. He is my age and we went to college together and he is just kind of a family guy– I knew he was going to be thrilled. Just today he told me I can schedule things for December if I want, but he understands if I need to pass them off to other team members based on how I am feeling.

If I didn’t have a great relationship, I would wait and wait until it was necessary. 15 or 20w or if you have a lot of appts or start showing. No rush.

Post # 5
5697 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m not telling my boss until I’m out of my first trimester, she would have zero sympathy for me anyway even though she has 5 kids of her own. So far I have been able to manage my MS well enough to not have to miss work, carrying snacks with me, wearing anti nausea sea-bands, eating ginger gum, sucking on mints, etc… The only reason I would tell her earlier is if I start getting extremely sick but until then I’m not saying a word.

I don’t think it’s necessary to drop the bomb before you even know if you will have issues with nausea, also even if you aren’t planning to come back, if you tell them at 15 weeks you still have 6 months go to, that is plenty of time to find someone to fill your spot.

Post # 7
3006 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Tell her you’re pregnant but don’t say you’re not coming back. You don’t have to tell her that, especially since you’re not getting pd maternity leave.

Post # 8
2184 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

I told my “superior” at 13 weeks and waited until 16 weeks to tell my boss. That convo was about my leave. I agree with others– do not tell her right away that you won’t return. Wait until you are certain, have a plan and are later in pregnancy to tell her. There’s no reason to have an even more awkward 7-9 months! 

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