How white is too white

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
588 posts
Busy bee

I think it depends on the style and length of dress.  A short cocktail dress can be pretty darn white and still not run the risk of looking like you’re trying to upstage the bride. A full length white-ish dress is more problematic though. Usually I’d say any pattern on a white background is okay, but something like this would still be iffy for me:

Post # 3
878 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I couldn’t careless. Wear white to my wedding if you want. Just don’t wear my dress 

Post # 4
1214 posts
Bumble bee

My own rule is if I have any doubts, I don’t wear it.  If you do wear something questionable, don’t keep asking people at the wedding if it is okay.  That only draws more attention to it.  If you wear it, own it.  You’ll look lovely.

Post # 5
397 posts
Helper bee

Misswhowedding:  I’d say any shade of solid white or light neutral. Regardless of length or style. If it’s dress print that simply has white IN it, no biggy. However, a solid white, cream or ivory dress… Maybe even light gold? No.

Post # 6
3394 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I always err on the side of caution and avoid any shades of white, ivory, cream, champagne. The bride may not care, but I don’t see the point of running that risk? Just wear an obviously non-bridal dress.

Post # 8
2118 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

pinkksnow:  +1

If you have to ask, it’s probably better to just find something else to wear.

Post # 9
668 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I don’t really care if guests wear white because I’ll be in ivory and champagne 😉

Post # 10
1437 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I had bought this dress with the intention of wearing it to a few weddings this spring, then later realized some people might think it was too white. I posted a thread here asking for opinions, actually, and the overwhelming majority (95% plus) thought it was fine.

The side pannels are completely black, it’s just hard to see.

I think a pattern and a second colour that is equally (or almost as) present as the white tends to make it look more appropriate.

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