How will I ever save for this wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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498 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Waitingbee57:  I feel the same way…cost to much so most likely we will have out wedding and reception in a park and have a family member make the food and have another friend play the music…all I really have to worry about is my dress and his suit and our bridesmaids and groomsmans clothing…its stressful to think how much it all could cost…good luck to u!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I don’t want to crush your hopes but it is honestly better to plan your wedding around what you can afford rather than come up with a whole host of unaffordable items and worry about meeting the cost of them. Also, don’t rely on anyone else helping you out.

So look at what you have planned and see where you can cut costs. Fewer guests, for example or a cheaper venue. Do you have any nice but actually non-essential elements in your plans? You have a whole year to go so there must be some things that you aren’t committed to having yet.

Post # 5
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8425 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Will I just find the other $1000 – $2000 along the way?

@Waitingbee57:  No, do not plan on money falling from the sky.  It will stress you out when your date gets closer and you’re short on money for your vendors.  Plan your wedding according to your budget.

Post # 6
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895 posts
Busy bee

Start buying small things as you go. a year a go now I started buying things like decor, the bridal party’s gifts, thank you cards in bulk, anything I could buy to get out of the way because now all of our money is going to the vedors. We don’t make much but it’s amazing how much we were able to use towards our wedding. Trading eating out one night for ordering my veil, small things like that is how we got it done. 

Post # 7
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11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would probably plan a cheaper wedding!

We found that a luncheon wedding reduced reception costs by over 50%! Plates were half price for the same food, and we just served Mimosas instead of an open bar!

Post # 8
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47 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Try to cut costs monthly and set aside a set amount per month for your wedding even if it’s $25 of $50/month.  We opened up a “wedding account” and did just that. 

 

Maybe you should re-do your budget and talk to people/network to see if you can get cheaper deals.  If you know someone who knows someone who is a DJ or a baker for example.. Try to find stuff online too to make it cheaper.  Try DIY centerpeices, favors and decor.  Cutting guests does help a bit. 

 

Last resort – could you borrow from someone?  A close friend or relative.  Then you could pay them back after the wedding?

Good luck!

Post # 9
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6073 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Waitingbee57: 

Ditto!

“No, do not plan on money falling from the sky.  It will stress you out when your date gets closer and you’re short on money for your vendors.  Plan your wedding according to your budget”

“I don’t want to crush your hopes but it is honestly better to plan your wedding around what you can afford rather than come up with a whole host of unaffordable items and worry about meeting the cost of them. Also, don’t rely on anyone else helping you out.”

 

Unless you have your parents’ money IN HAND, you really cannot rely on their word.  We have seen far to many brides come on here so upset because mom and dad backed out or had their own emergency to cover. And the parents do mean the very best, but prepare for the

If you’re living paycheck to paycheck, that tells me you have no emergency savings and are opting to spend any savings on a wedding over an emergency fund.  I would ask you to seriously reconsider this.  What if someone looses a job, totals a car, gets really sick????  You need emergency savings more than you need wedding savings.  Once you get some emergency savings, then you can save for a wedding. 

So sorry if that is upsetting, but it’s the adult thing to do!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think if you guys could look around make a strict budget and see how many you can come up with. Of course you should plan for what you can afford and if you can’t save it up in a year then scale it back,

My husband and I spent a lot on our wedding so we stop traveling back and fourth for the year before the wedding which was hard.

Post # 12
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314 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@Steampunkbride:  I agree.

 

It is hard to cut things but only do what you can afford.

 

Post # 13
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6073 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Waitingbee57:  I am glad to hear you do have an emergency fund!  They say to have at least 6 months worth of living expenses in an emergency fund.  Yes, I was purely going off the paycheck to paycheck description.

 

Post # 14
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382 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Waitingbee57:  Well I wouldn’t have any type of open bar. That will help you out right there. Have a cash bar.

 

Also check out Vista Print. I believe it’s a lot cheaper.

Also here’s a coupon for vistaprint

http://www.groupon.com/deals/vista-print-47

 

you pay $15 and get a $45 voucher, which that can save you money right there.

Post # 15
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11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Waitingbee57:  Wow! I don’t know how you found a venue that cheap for 180 guests! That is some SERIOUSLY good planning (sorry for underestimating you!)

Aside from the bar, you could cut in linens/rentals… But I would probably start cutting things out of your day-to-day lives to save up instead!

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

180 is a huge guest list. I’d try and cut about 50 people from that – that should make your budget more manageable. Our wedding was 69 people and amazing! You don’t need that many people – you won’t have time to even talk to them!

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