Post # 1
My parents have both recently passed. I was going to have large photos of them alone and one of their wedding photo next to our photos on the mantle at the reception. How can I honor them at the actual ceremony without being a tearfest?
Post # 2
We got married in a church, and placed three white roses on the alter, with a note in the program stating that they were in rememberance of xx. We liked it since it was subtle, but not avoidable.
Post # 3
We’re having a picture of my mom in the seat where she would have set. I’m also using the lace from her wedding veil to make two lace flowers, one is going in my bouquet and the other next to her photo (I had painted her a little flower vase several years ago and we’re going to put it in that). My relationship with my mom was ‘complicated’ at best, but she was still my mom so we’re going to do something, just not overboard.
Post # 4
For my Grandmother and Nana who has passed (and for my grandfather if he’s gone when the time comes) we plan on writing in a moment of silence into the ceremony. I am writing my own ceremony, so I just wanted to add a little blurb about those we have lost. I’m also going to include their pictures at the reception.
Post # 5
My grandpa passed away last July and I was lucky enough to be in Spain in September when my grandma was cleaning out the closet. I kept one of his blue shirts. I am going to cut a small heart of the shirt and sow it to the inside of my dress next to my heart. It’ll be my “something blue”.
I saw it on Pinterest and couldn’t resist But honor him this way. I love it
Post # 6
My father passed away and a few people have asked me if I’ll be doing anything to honor him at the wedding, and my answer is no. I think doing so would turn the wedding into a mini-memorial service and its not something I’d be comfortable with at my wedding. My sister (much younger/not engaged, but one day) is planning on having a photo charm of him on her bouquet so he can “walk her down the asile.”
Post # 7
I’m having a photo charm on my bouquet. Were getting married outside so I’ll be releasing balloons at the start of the ceremony to honor grandparents and my dad. And at the reception, I’m also going to dance with my brother to a song in rememberance of my dad.
Post # 8
My fiance and I will have candles lit at the ceremony for our loved ones who are there in spirit. We also thought about having a picture of them in the seat they would be sitting in.
Post # 9
We decided to include a message to them in our wedding programs. The idea of marking an empty seat with a rose is touching, but one that I thought would make me upset to see they aren’t there. We didn’t want their names to be mentioned during the ceremony because I was afraid I burst into tears, but our pastor last minute added it in without us knowing, but happened to butcher all the names, which added a bit of humor to it. I don’t think a wedding should be a memorial service, I think it is more for the couple themselves. The day after the wedding I drove to my grandmother’s grave (who I was super close to) and placed my bouquet on her grave. That was really meaningful to me.
Post # 10
I am having fake flowers for practical reasons, and will be placing my bouquet at my grandparents’ grave site. They both passed away during my engagement, and while I’m thrilled that they got to meet FI and know we were getting married, they will be missed at our wedding.
Post # 11
We gave the flowers at the front of the church in memory of our grandparents, and their wedding pictures were included at the reception among the wedding pictures of our (still living) parents. We didn’t want anything like a shrine, we wanted it super super subtle.
Post # 12
- Wedding: December 2014 - Loft
prettyemme: We’re having photos of our members on the signing table at the ceremony. Sorry you’re dealing with that. They will be with you on your big day.
Post # 13
On our guestbook table, there will be a sign with a phrase on it with their names – one set of my grandparents, one set of his grandparents, and an aunt of his (which we’re stilld debating since they were not close).
I plan on have their pictures up, as well. I have my grandparents wedding photo, and will need to get a photo of his mom’s parents and his aunt too. Ohl, and maybe a vase with some flowers.
Post # 14
I am actually going to order silver charms for my bouquet. Things that symbolize them to me. For example my grandfather was a carpenter and I am getting a hammer charm for him. They make charms for practically anything now
Post # 15
I’m doing an empty seat with an “in-memory” bouquet, and a sign saying that it’s being left open for those who can’t be there (basically http://www.pinterest.com/pin/335658978451663485/)
FI and I both decided it was subtle, but nice. We didn’t want pictures or anything that would make people upset, but we did want something small to acknowledge them. For us, it was the perfect balance — but I do think everyone needs to find their own right balance with something like this.