(Closed) How would you address an invitation to a family with two last names?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

In my house growing up we had three last names under one roof. Not everyone realized the tricky situation and would address envelopes to “the_____family” and use whatever last name they were most familiar with (if it was a co-worker of my step father they would use his last name, for example). Family and close friends, however, addressed all things using all five of our first names which I always preferred. You can write your aunt and uncles name on one line and then list the four children underneath.

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I didn’t mean to hit submit yet… Haha

I was going to say, I think if the options you listed the last is the best; the patents areleaned and the kids, regardlessname last name, are covered by “family.” I think that’s your best bet if you want the invitation to sound more formal ๐Ÿ™‚ hope that helps!

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Ok, last comment in a row, I swear but I just have to say…. Autocorrect with a iPhone on this site is horrific! That sentence should say “the parents are named and the kids, regardless of last name, are covered…”

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Mr. & Mrs. Smith

and Family

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

In your case I would do like HeMadeMeWantTo said and put

Mr. And Mrs. Smith

And Family

But, I do feel where you’re coming from. If someone were to send me an invitation with all our names, they would all be different. My FI has his last name, obviously, I have my maiden name, and my daughter has the name of her biological father. I think we would be:

Mr. Jon W


and Miss Tricia H—

Dazzling S


Families are complicated, for real. I’ve started making our guest list just so we can tell venues an estimaed guest list number. I have several that are complicated. Good luck!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

How formal is your wedding? And do the daughters still live at home? 

It’s much, much easier if you are using inner and outer envelopes. 

Outer will read: Mr. and Mrs. Bob Jones (You can do “Ann and Bob Jones,” but technically, “Mr. Bob Jones and Ms. Ann Jones” sometimes is interpreted as the two are siblings who live together. Although, in this day and age, if you think your aunt will really care, then screw it and do what you want)

Inner (/=line separation): Ann & Bob Jones / Elizabeth, Mary, Margaret, Christine Doe / Amy Jones (Amy, in this case, goes last because it’s alpha order after family “rank”–ie, parents always go first)

If you are just doing outer envelopes then you could do: 

Ann & Bob Jones & Family

or

Ann & Bob Jones

Elizabeth, Mary, Margaret, and Christine Doe

Amy Jones

or

Ann & Bob Jones

Amy, Elizabeth, Christine, Margaret, and Mary (I alpha ordered them, but you can do it by age as well)

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would do this:

Mr. & Mrs. Michael Brady
Greg, Jan, Peter, Marcia, Bobby & Cindy

UNLESS the daughters are adults.  I don’t think it’s appropriate to drop the last name if they’re adults.

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