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    msmonicka    June 19, 2010   Milwaukee, Wisconsin

    Ok so remember the other day how I was saying that I hadn't received about half of my rsvps bact yet and my deadline was yesterday?

    Well my cousin and his fiance just happened to be one that I was missing but yesterday I received their invitation in the mail. They're getting married July 3rd. Wait...what? Not to mention the invitations oddly resembled ours. We sent ours April 19th.

    I got on the phone and called my mom asking her if she had received one which she had and then before I could even say anything...she said, they look kinda like yours. So then I was like...how are they going to send us an invite to their wedding and they haven't even sent back our RSVP?

    Let me quick also point out that our address looked like it was written by a third grader (I'm not even kidding) and that it was addressed: Monicka H and Justin. No last name for him, no miss or mr. I'm just like wth?!?

    Mom then gets off the phone with me and calls my aunt (his mom) to tell her to tell him to RSVP and about an hour later I get a message from him on fb like....hey how's it going? getting pretty close to the big day. We're not going to be able to make it. Good luck in the weeks to come.

    Wait!!! Wth!! Rude all the way around. Even though I'll be in my home state that weekend (KY)...I highly doubt that I'll be appearing at his wedding.

    How would you take this?

     
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    Ember78    December 15, 2012  

    It's definitely rude, but there's nothing you can do about it. Count them as a no-show and move on. I wouldn't attend their wedding either.

     
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    JamaicaBride    May 14, 2011   Charlotte, NC

    Wow! I don't know if I would just laugh and write it off to crazy relatives, or let them know how rude I really think they are. First, the don't bother RSVP-ing. Second, they basically copy your invites. Third, they actually SEND said invite WITHOUT bothering to RSVP to your wedding. Lastly, they don't plan on attending YOUR wedding but sent you an invite to theirs? Which is only a couple of weeks or so after yours?

    Is theirs spur of the moment? Seemed like that would have been all over the family gossip line if the wedding was int he planning stages for some time....very weird.

     
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    msmonicka    June 19, 2010   Milwaukee, Wisconsin

    ember78...I know I can't do anything about it...I was just wondering if anybody else thought this was as rude as I did. I'm def not going to their wedding.

     
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    msmonicka    June 19, 2010   Milwaukee, Wisconsin

    jamaicabride: I guess they got engaged about 6 months after we did but I didn't hear to much about it til like 2 and a half months ago.

     
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    bellenga    July 31, 2010   Georgia

    I would take the higher road and be glad I didn't have to spend the $ on paying for them at my reception.  Send them a decent gift with the card addressed properly on the front (maybe she'll take note).

    Imho weddings make people nuts sometimes.  It brings out in some a large deal of selfishness. 

     
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    msmonicka    June 19, 2010   Milwaukee, Wisconsin

    Bell: I know right!! Selfish!! Thanx for the advice.

     
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    Sali2011    July 9, 2011   Northern VA/DC

    WOW msmonicka!  that's hella rude. That's family for ya. 

     
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    Vonnegurl    June 12, 2010  

    It can be really hurtful when the people you think would appreciate what a special occasion it is (ie those getting married themselves or recently married) treat your wedding with so little regard, huh? I know because I've been feeling that all week. The happy thing though is, once you've got the RSVPs taken care of, you can concentrate on all your guests who are honoring you and your marriage that day.

     

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