Post # 1
This is a term that FI and I use a LOT. It was ingrained in FI from watching the movie “What Dreams May Come” with Robin Williams. (fantastic movie– a must see if you haven’t watched it!)
We’re writing our own vows, and I have been desperately seeking a way to implement the term “soul mate” into them… defining it, explaining why I believe that’s what we are, etc.
I stumbled across this in my search, from http://ojar.com/view_27655.htm.
<husband> and <wife> believe that they share a unique bond. A bond that transcends the boundaries of the world we experience with our five senses. They are soul mates. A term that, to some people, simply means two beings that are compatible with one another. But to <husband> and <wife>, soul mates are more than just compatible with one another, they are meant for each other. They are destined to be together, over and over again, in lifetimes to come, and they have been together in many lifetimes past. As soul mates, they enter each new life with the goal of finding each other and spending that lifetime together.
FI and I have often said that we believe that we’ve been with one another in previous lives, and everything within me tells me that I will continue to seek him out in every life after this one.
Some of your belief systems may not go along these lines, but I’m just curious. How do YOU define the word “soul mate” and why do you believe that you’re marrying yours???
Post # 3
I actually don’t believe in soul mates.
I love my FH with all of my heart, but I’m sure that if circumstances had been different, we would have met other people and been happy.
But what makes him special is that I am choosing HIM and he is choosing ME. I have never felt so 100% sure about something in my entire life. There are hundreds of roads we could go down together – for all our planning, we can never know what will really happen – but no matter what the future holds, he is the one that I want with me. It’s about love, don’t get me wrong, but it’s also (in some ways more) about choice.
Not sure if that makes sense, but there you go. 🙂 Everyone’s different.
Post # 4
I don’t believe in soul mates either. I think if people work hard enough they can usually be happy with any person (unless addiction/abuse) and it can develop into love. I think of love as an action, not just something that occurs.
Post # 5
I agree, to a certain extent. I also have never been so sure of anything in my life!!
Post # 6
FI and I actually don’t believe in soul mates. We believe that there can be more than one person in the world for everyone. Imagine if we were married for 20 years and my DH passed away. If I got remarried and was married for another 20 years, which husband would have been my “soul mate”?
However, the reason that I know FI is perfect for me is that I can truly be myself around him and that he loves me for who I am and vice versa.
Post # 7
We didn’t believe in soul mates until we met each other 🙂
We count ourselves as incredibly lucky to have found each other. The circumstances of us even meeting, the odds, absolutely staggering. And we’re literally a perfect match. We disagree like anyone else, but we never fight. Neither of us knew it was possible to love someone to this extent or to be this happy. So all we can logically conclude is we must be soul mates 🙂
Post # 8
We don’t believe in soul mates. Like some PPs, I believe there are a lot of people out there that we could’ve been happy with. I think about it in the sense that, what are the chances that out of the billions of people in this world, the only one for me happens to live in the same city I do? I just can’t believe that if I had been born on the other side of the world and never met FI, I would never be happy. I guess for me it’s just about choosing to be with one person no matter what.
Post # 9
I believe that we have a certain number of soul mates out there… and that we’re bound to find one of them to start a married life with. I know a few people who have lost their husbands or wives and who have managed to find love again… so this is why I believe this to be true 🙂 I always refer to my fiance as my soulmate… although I do think that there would have been other possibilities out there if I hadn’t found him.
Post # 10
I believe in soul mates – but not always as spouses. My best friend is my soul mate. She and I have a bond that transcends time and space. Her boyfriend is jealous of it. Her ex husband was jealous of it. Luckily, my Mister isn’t jealous of it. He does laugh at us though. We finish eachothers thoughts, and sentences, and can have a conversation without either of us finishing a coherent sentence.
Post # 11
I believe that you can find compatible people, ones you love and are happy with, but I also believe in soulmates – like “the one” basically.
My definition is that lovers, friends or other close people are there for a certain reason in your life, when you really need them. They come and go, they get more important or less important, depending on how you grow as a person. But your soulmate is always going to be there, the one you share everything with. There´s a balance between leaning on and being there for the other, learning from them and teaching them.. like being the best possible version of each person when they are together.
I also love the idea of being destined to be together, because I feel like so many major events in my life and so many people I´ve known led up to the opportunity of meeting my boyfriend.
Maybe I´m just a hopeless romantic 🙂
Post # 12
definition of soul mates=SO and I
okay, now that i got that out of my system…. “what dreams may come” is a GREAT movie! i also think though that wedding crashers gave an amazing point of view on soul mates and true love with the statement “True love is your soul’s recognition of its counterpoint in another”