How would you describe your marriage/relationship?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How would you describe your marriage/relationship?
    I married my best friend : (101 votes)
    42 %
    I married my high school or college sweetheart : (27 votes)
    11 %
    I fell madly in love--whirlwind romance : (23 votes)
    10 %
    To be honest, I don't know why I'm married/involved with this person : (7 votes)
    3 %
    Unhappily married/involved : (2 votes)
    1 %
    Other (please explain) : (16 votes)
    7 %
    I feel like I married my other half : (64 votes)
    27 %
  • Post # 3
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    3222 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    @MrsLongcoatPeacoat:  I’m marrying very young (in my circle/city)! I’ll be 28 when we marry, but it will be near our 11th year anniversary. We lived together for many years before marrying.

    We’re besties and I’d describe our relationship as simply fun. We love being together and we’re ALWAYS laughing. This describes us perfectly:

     

    Post # 4
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    2355 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    None of those apply. I would say that I am marrying my other half. It’s true that he is my best friend, but we didn’t start out platonically, and it just doesn’t feel like the best description.

    Post # 5
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    6407 posts
    Bee Keeper

    We fell madly in love, but doesn’t “whirlwind romance” suggest moving quickly? 5 years of dating before our long-ish engagement doesn’t seem very “whirlwindy” to me.

    I always cringed at the thought of “marrying one’s best friend” because it sounds borderline incestual to me. One of the important elements of my closest friendships is a strong trust in the mutual platonic-ness of it. It is also kind of insulting to my actual closest friend. FI doesn’t have to be all the things. My closest friend is not someone I want to marry but she’s extremely important to my life just the same.

    Post # 7
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    5228 posts
    Bee Keeper

    My husband and I got married very quickly. It was just so “right” and the relationship is very easy. After almost 7 years, I still get excited about spending time with him. The drama is almost non existent, but the passion is there 😉 I think that is where a lot of people come into problems. They confuse drama for passion. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    11379 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    we fell madly in love and had a whirlwind relationship.  we were engaged at 3 months. 

    we are still madly in love but of course the whirlwind has settled down.  we are truly each other’s best friend now.  we love spending every day together.

    Post # 10
    Member
    900 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I know it’s such a cliche and I wanted to make sure “best friend” wasn’t written in the vows because….for some reason….I always disliked calling him my best friend.

    But now that we’re married and I’ve had some time to think….he really is my best friend.  He’s not my best girlfriend and I don’t watch Lifetime movies with him and act the exact same way I do around my 3 best girlfriends but the guy is literally my best friend.  We keep each other laughing constantly and we have such a good time together.  Sure – it’s not all sunshine and rainbows 24/7 but it’s damn close.

    Post # 12
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    5421 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @MrsLongcoatPeacoat:  I wouldn’t decsribe our relationship in any of those terms.

    We have a very strong, solid relationship. We are very compatible, and share a similar sense of human, similar religious and political views, etc. We are both laid-back. We have chemistry and physical attraction too. And we both work at our relationship, to ensure we communicate properly, keep the spark alive, etc. I feel extremely blessed to have him, and to be with someone who’s company I still enjoy, and who still makes my tummy flip, and whom I rarely argue with, even after over 8 years together.

    But: he is not my best friend. My best friend is a female friend. He is my partner, not my friend, and while we do things that friends do together, a romantic relationship is very different to a friendship.

    He is not my college/high-school sweetheart, even though we got together young, at 19. I’ve had two previous long-term relationships and we’ve both had other sexual partners, and we are very happy that way.

    Nor was it a whirl-wind romance: we actually met over 2 years before we became a couple, and we will have been together for nearly 9 years when we get married. I would decsribe our relationship more as slow and steady than as a whirlwind.

    Post # 13
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    4483 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    He is my best friend

     

    Post # 14
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    1676 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    @MrsLongcoatPeacoat:  none of those really sum up how I feel, but my SO is the best thing that’s ever happened to me, not because of who he is, but who I am now we’ve found each other. He’s divorced and my ex left me after 12 years, so we both feel entirely lucky to be given a second chance, and to have found each other.  He’s a massive contributing factor to my happiness 

    Post # 15
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    430 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    While I’m not married yet, my SO and I got together on a “whirlwind romance”, but since then, he’s become my best friend. He’s just one of those people with whom I can spend all of my time and never have nothing to say!

    Post # 16
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    532 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I went with “My other half” but that only loosely applies.

    Honestly, the relationship just makes logical and practical sense and that’s what I strive for in life. I want things to make sense and to hold genuine reason. I don’t do things “Just because”, I don’t believe “love conquers all” and I don’t fall in love at first sight.

    We were both in similar places in our lives when we started dating. We are both savers and investors who handle money well. Our two favourite things in life are eating and traveilng. It was like there was this invisible checklist on paper of all the things that made the relationship fit together like two puzzle pieces.

    We’re not terribly romantic or emotional (which some would say is a major flaw), but I’m truly in the happiest relationship I’ve ever been in.

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