Let me preface this by saying this hasn’t happened to me, but I have a sinking suspicion it could! One of FI’s best friends/groomsmen has been hinting at proposing to his girlfriend sometime this year. Neither I, nor FI care for her (she doesn’t seem genuine) and the only reason she is invited is because of our relationship with her boyfriend.
My suspicion comes from the fact that he tends to always try to “one-up” everything we do and bring the spotlight to him in other people’s moments. In general, that side of him is verrryyy annoying but he’s still a great guy. Like at our engagement he made a speech that kept referencing how he would be “next in line” even though at that point he and his gf had only been together and known each other for about 2 weeks!
Obviously this is just hypothetical because who knows what his actual plans are, but I’m just curious how would you feel if someone decided to propose to their gf during YOUR reception?
I’d be pissed! The only one that she be congratulated during a wedding is the bride and groom.. Just my personal opinion…
Can you jokingly bring it up to him? like, “Hey, don’t go proposing to anyone on my wedding day! Wait until the party is over and th elights are off! Hahaha”?? lol
I dont mean to sound self centered, but I wouldnt be ok with that.. and proposing to a gf during someones wedding without asking for permission first is just RUDE in the first place!
I would be upset and annoyed.
I wouldn’t be a fan. Unless it was done privately, in their own special moment and then shared at a later date. Day after your wedding? No problem…but during the reception is just inappropriate.
I would be upset that this friend did this on purpose. I would be more upset that a friend could do something like that at a time that is supposed to be celebrating a union of two other people. There are 364 other days out there why would he delibrately try to do that. Its ruins the friendship in my mind. Not a good friend!
I had a dream about this the other night! It was that my MOH’s BF proposed, but I knew about it and was soooooo excited for them and helped him plan the proposal.
Honestly, if it were two people I was really close with and knew about it beforehand, I wouldn’t be upset.
Unless it was like my sister or best friend and they had already asked us if it was okay I would be pissed. I really don’t usually believe in the whole “thunder stealing” BS but there is a time and place for things and someone else’s wedding is not the place for a proposal. If you really think it might be an issue I might have your FI bring it up in a non confrontational way to his friend that it really wouldn’t be okay with either of you for that to happen. If the friend really wants to propose he can wait the 6 hours until your reception is over .
I’d probably be a bit miffed as the bride, considering the girl isn’t my favorite, as opposed to her bring my best friend. If it were someone that I was super close to, I’d probably cry (in a happy way) and be excited for them.
But I think the bigger annoyance would be for the girl being proposed to. I’d be almost embarrassed if my FI had proposed to me at a friends wedding. First because I would’ve felt it was rude to the bride and groom and their families, and also because instead of getting to have our own moment between us, he would’ve done it in someone elses moment with someone elses friends/family all around.
this is about one of the rudest things you can do in my opinion – to the bride and groom, but also to your gf. It’s actually one of the only things I will not care about being a total bitch bridezilla about.
I think it’s in very poor taste. I would do like PP mentioned and bring it up to him in a lighthearted but serious way so he knows that’s not an ok thing to do.
Honestly I wouldn’t mind. At our reception there were a couple of other occasions for celebration, including the anniversary weekend of some of our friends, another couple who’d gotten engaged a couple of days earlier, promotions, and so forth. As long as they don’t do it during the actual ceremony, I’m of the mindset that it just gives us one more reason to celebrate!
But knowing that people have strong feelings on this, anyone considering this would be well-served to ask permission of the bride and groom first, and abide by their wishes if told no.
It normally wouldn’t bother me but in this case I would be pissed.
I think it’s a very very weird place to propose. A couple did this at my best friends wedding recently. She wasn’t affected by it at all on the night but afterwards we had a big chat about how strange it was.
@Galang_Gyal: I wouldn’t be happy if I was the bride or GF for that matter
I personally wouldn’t be upset (I also wouldn’t care if someone wore white), but I think it’s in bad taste. I think the only thing that would upset me at my wedding is if something happened to my groom.