Post # 1
My FI and I are still debating on a date, and we have lots of time, as we want to get married in the spring of 2014. The middle/end of May is out, because my little brother will be graduating in May, so I don’t want to take away from his big accomplishment. We were thinking either April or very early May, although people would still be in school.
We want a Saturday afternoon/evening wedding, and both of us have family that are out of town. If we had the wedding on the Saturday before Easter Sunday, people would be able to travel, as most schools will have their spring break around Easter weekend. I would have to call my relatives and see if that is really the case, but I know for a lot of schools in the US, it is.
But I was wondering, how would you feel about a wedding the day before Easter? Would you be willing to travel several hours (OOT family lives in CT, TX, and MI)? I know around here, people don’t really make big plans or travel for Easter, but maybe it’s not that way everywhere? I guess it comes down to figuring out if people would like that it was scheduled in a break from school, giving people a little free time, or if they would rather decide to either miss a day or two of school/not come for the wedding.
Post # 3
I dont travel anywhere on easter, neither do any of my family. We do get together for easter dinner though.
Post # 4
Is your family religious? I know that in my family this would be a HUGE no-no, because so many of my relatives are Catholic and therefore the time between Good Friday and Easter Sunday (so basically, exactly when you are having your wedding) is a time for prayer and reflection, not celebration, even if it is a celebration of love, for those who believe Jesus was crucified on Friday and risen on Sunday, it would be pretty offensive to be out partying Saturday ngiht when it’s supposed to be a time of mourning before the celebration of his rising. It’s a religious holiday, so very different than choosing Memorial or Labor Day weekend.
Even though I’m not really religious, I’d have to be pretty close to you for me to travel hours the day before Easter, be out late, and then have to travel home when the next day is a holiday that I want to spend at home with my family. For close relatives I guess that’s not an issue since they’d all already be there, but I see it becoming an issue fairly quickly with people’s in-laws, relatives of theirs who aren’t invited because obviously you have to draw the line somewhere, etc. I think it would be better to have it within a few weeks of your brother’s graduation (which really, that only takes one day) than to have it over Easter weekend. Also tough for families with kids who want to have them at home Sunday morning to do the egg hunt, find their baskets, etc.
Post # 5
@misscupcake2012: I agree that it depends entirely on the people you are intending to invite and their own religious beliefs about such things. I was in a wedding a few years ago where they actually wanted the wedding to be on Easter weekend, whereas, I know many people who would see this as a ‘no-no’
Post # 6
We contemplated it for the exact reasons as you… I actually suggested a Good Friday wedding, but understandably got the evil eye from both FI and his mom.
We also considered the Saturday but FI’s side are all church going people and I know would either leave the wedding early or not party as hard as I would like them to so they could get to church on Sunday. Our wedding would be at least a 45 min drive for everyone.
I guess the short answer is – it depends on your guests. I would attend but with FI as my plus 1 we would probably leave early so he could get to church on the Sunday.
Post # 7
@Wonderstruck: My family is religious, but we are all non-denominational, so we don’t do Lent or Ash Wednesday or Good Friday stuff. We acknowledge the days and talk about what they mean, but other than that, we don’t do anything. I’m not sure what other denominations do, although I could ask my dad, because his family used to be Catholic when he was a kid (they’ve all since switched to non-denominational).
Perhaps it would be better to just do it another weekend? My cousins in CT are both still in school, and both me and my FI have cousins in school in TX, and I have an aunt who is a teacher (although I think she would come no matter what, since she came for my cousin’s wedding in October). Would it be rude to ask them to take off a couple days of school to come to the wedding?
Post # 8
It depends who you invite. Since I don’t do much for Easter, I would go but only if it was local. My wedding is a holiday weekend but Labor Day. I wouldn’t have considered any of the 3 big holidays (Easter, Christmas, Thanksgiving).
Post # 9
I don’t see why it would be a problem, unless you have close friends/family that are super Catholic. My mom once made me delay my birthday party (when I was little) because it fell on Good Friday.
Post # 10
@misscupcake2012: I went back and added a bit to my post just to clarify why it might be a bit offensive to Catholics. I’ll just copy and paste here so you don’t have to re-read it all since it’s kinda in the middle.
even if it is a celebration of love, for those who believe Jesus was crucified on Friday and risen on Sunday, it would be pretty offensive to be out partying Saturday ngiht when it’s supposed to be a time of mourning before the celebration of his rising.
So I would definitely ask your dad, because if they have held onto this part of their Catholic faith at all I can see it upsetting some people. I know my grandparents would probably have a heart attack, but that’s just my family. If you’re set on a spring wedding, I would have it another weekend – you can always find out when their break is because typically it’s a week long, so they would probably have either the weekend before or after Easter off too (which one depends on the school though). But really, those who you are closest to and who are the most important will be willing to take a day or two off.
Post # 11
We are having our wedding the day before Easter (in a little over 2 months). Our family is glad we are doing it over a holiday because most of them will have Friday to get here and settled before the wedding saturday.
The ONLY problem I can see Easter is that travel is a lot more expensive around a holiday (this goes for any holiday). If you have a lot of guests flying, they are probably going to pay 2x or more for airfare and hotels are slightly higher in price as well. Also, for your honeymoon be prepared to pay higher prices. For example, my FI and I looked into going a cruise. It was DOUBLE the week after easter than it was any other week (for the exact same cruise) non-holiday weeks.
Someone said if your family is really religious they may not like it but I kind of disagree. Unless an out of town guest absolutely HAS to attend their own church for easter sunday then I think even religious guests would be glad to attend the wedding. Maybe put an insert in your invitations that gives local churches that will have easter services and the time. Unless your wedding is on Sunday, this wouldn’t interfere.
Post # 12
@misscupcake2012: I am going to a wedding this year on the firday of Easter weekend…it’s a bit of a nusiance as I have family plans for the who weekend and this will be taking up one of the 3 days. I plan on leaving early. but the story would be different for family…
.other holidays like 4th of July are a good idea (if it falls on a weekend or monday/friday) as poeple always want an extra excuse to take an extra day off on a long weekend to make it extra long (hello 4 days!)
I am having my wedding on Canada day weekend. Canada day falls on the Monday, my wedding is Friday(it was cheaper)…it’s not usually a huge family holiday (more of a picnic chill holiday…sorta like the 4th)
Post # 13
Sounds good to me, as I don’t celebrate. It’d be a nice way to hang out and see people and do something fun on a weekend that’s usually boring for me because everyone’s doing Easter things! 🙂
Post # 14
@Brooklyn55: Someone said if your family is really religious they may not like it but I kind of disagree. Unless an out of town guest absolutely HAS to attend their own church for easter sunday then I think even religious guests would be glad to attend the wedding. Maybe put an insert in your invitations that gives local churches that will have easter services and the time. Unless your wedding is on Sunday, this wouldn’t interfere.
Not true at all if they’re Catholic…if you read my follow up post maybe you’ll understand why better. But I certainly wouldn’t assume it wouldn’t interfere just because it’s not on Sunday – that is the day for celebrating that Jesus has risen, Friday and Saturday are about his death, I know as a kid I had to have birthday celebrations delayed and wasn’t allowed to do anything remotely entertaining those two days because they are a time for prayer and reflection. I’ve gotten away from all that in adulthood, but since many of her family members were once Catholic and sounds like they still are religious in general, I definitely think it’s at least worth asking her dad how they’d take it.
Post # 15
@Brooklyn55: Luckily most of my family will be driving, as most of them are from Michigan (four sets of aunts and uncles/cousins, and my granparents and grammy). A lot of them usually carpool, especially since my grandparents are getting older. I am not sure if my relatives in Connecticut would fly or drive, and I can’t remember which they did last time they came out here, which was for my cousin’s wedding in 2005. I may only have one or two relatives from Texas flying, and my FI relatives from Texas usually drive when they come up.
As for the honeymoon, we were thinking about waiting until summer, because we are most likely going to Michigan, so we’ll wait for it to get warm before going.
@Wonderstruck: Thank you for the heads-up about Catholics! It reminded me that some of my family used to be Catholic, and might be offended. I’m thinking now that it might just be easier for everyone if I were to plan it for another spring weekend.
Post # 16
It sounds like you’re reconsidering the Easter date. I wanted to add that depending on where you’re getting married, some churches/ministers do not perform weddings during Lent. I chose my date because it was after Lent.
Oh, and its definitely not rude to host a wedding on a non-holiday weekend. I love taking off work for weddings.