How would you feel about moving in with your FIL/MIL?

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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5432 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

I would never be able to do it, because they are really negative/toxic people to be around. They really enjoy being passive aggressive, sarcastic, and hurtful. I know my FI could never do it either, but we would both be okay with moving in with my parents if we had to.

Post # 4
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4941 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@sheepandbear:  It’s going to be different for everyone because everyone’s relationships with their in-laws is so different. 

If my father in law were still alive? Sure, I loved him. He WAS my dad as far as I was concerned. However, my MIL? Nope, I wouldn’t be able to handle it. She’s controlling, overbearing, and just flat out rude to me.

I do know lots of people who love their in laws and it’d be a great choice for them to do this. If this is the case for you, go for it! I think it’s a great way to save money, as long as you can keep your sanity at bay as well. 🙂 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2004

@sheepandbear:  FFIL and FMIL are divorced. I wouldn’t mind living with FMIL. I love her like my own mother. FFIL is another story…he’s a total pain in the ass. Rude, no filter, sexist…Yeah…

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@sheepandbear:  that is seriously my WORST nightmare. If it’s in your best interest I understand.. But I never ever could. 

Post # 7
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559 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I think I could handle moving in with my parents(as a couple) but omg,his mom? No. Couldn’t. Could not. No.

Post # 8
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4483 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

It would be better than being homeless, but I don’t want to try either

Post # 9
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839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I moved in with my FMIL and FFIL, for about a month. My lease ended prior to us moving out of state, and they graciously let me and all of my stuff stay in their basement. 

That said, I did not enjoy the living situation overall, and I would not do it again. My FMIL and FFIL are good people, but my FMIL is pretty overbearing at times. I’m independent, and I felt awkward letting them cook dinner for me and treating me like one of their kids. 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@sheepandbear:  I love my FI’s parents but I absolutely 100% COULD NOT live with them. That sounds like my worst nightmare. After living on my own for so many years, I can’t imagine having anyone but FI around 24/7. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

It completely depends on your relationship with your IL’s, your conflict resolution skills, and your emotional maturity. Living with anyone has its own unique set of challenges and is different for everyone.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@sheepandbear:  Nope.nope.nope! If MIL needed a place to stay then I would be on board for her coming to live with us for an extended period of time. FIL isn’t someone I could live with so his stay would need to be short. I could NEVER live in their home and abide by their rules because it would just be stressful. If it was a short stay the I suppose I might as well do it but it would have to be my only option. 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I would rather be punched in the face and rebreak my nose. LUCKILY I have an awesome relationship with my own parents AND my brother so I would never be put in a position where I would have to consider moving into my inlaws

Post # 14
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7929 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

If we really needed to, I’d do it without feeling bad about it. I love my in-laws and that’s what family is there for. I obviously prefer my independence and DH and I really enjoy having our own family here in our home, but if money got that tight or if we needed help taking care of our daughter of they needed help being taken care of… yeah, I’d do it and it wouldn’t bother me.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

@sheepandbear:  I wouldn’t want to. I would do everything in my power to avoid it.

That being said, sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do.

Post # 16
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373 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We did it for 5 months and it was great! I love them both, we all respected each other’s boundaries and didn’t have any problems. 

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