(Closed) How would you feel about someone paying for your fertility treatments?

posted 5 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

We tried to help my SIL pay for their fertility treatments (many many rounds of IUI and now in vitro) and were refused. They honestly did not have the money, and have gone into debt for it…which is hard when you’re trying to create a life, which in turn is a very expensive thing! After trying to offer money 4 different times, we have given up. In the long run, it’s their life, their responsibility.

Post # 4
7349 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I don’t want to be rude, but if they don’t have health insurance or much money this is probably not the right time for them to be trying to have a baby. Chidren need health insurance.


While your offer is generous, I would not do it.  I mean- i suppose you could give her information on PCOS.


Post # 5
436 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@eeniebeans:  +1. Babies are SO expensive.

Post # 6
1519 posts
Bumble bee

They should definitely wait until they have health insurance. Fertility treatments may be expensive, but hospital bills are MUCH more expensive at times…especially if she needs a c-section or the baby is premature. They can add up to tens of thousands to hundreds of thousands of dollars. Even routine prenatal care is expensive. Wait until they have health insurance, then offer to help. The only thing planned parenthood would do is give her birth control to regulate cycles. Planned parenthood doesn’t specialize in helping people get pregnant, but they can point you toward other resources I’m sure. 

Post # 7
3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree with what the other ladies said. Babies really require health insurance. 

I just want to add, however, that you don’t mention whether and how much information she has really shared with you. Does she actually have PCOS or is that just what you’re thinking? There’s so many things that could impede conception that I would caution advancing that without confirmation from her. 

Maybe if it comes up again, you just have a heart to heart and  ask her what she’s doing to get pregnant now. For example, is she charting her temperatures or doing OPKs? If she isn’t you might want to reccomend the book “Taking Charge of Your Fertility.”  The reason I suggest this is because, if she isn’t doing these things, they might really help her out naturally. Also, charting temperatures, CM, etc now will really help later if they still need and can afford to seek medical help for it. Basically, the first thing any RE will do (to my understanding) is ask to see six months of charts. So if she is working on these while they get their health insurance in order, then it might help her feel like she’s doing something and cut out any extra delays onces she finally gets into seeing an RE. 

Also, if you’re not sure how to help support her, just ask! Couldn’t hurt. 

Best of luck to your friend!

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