Post # 1
I am a Bridesmaid or Best Man in my best friends wedding. Her Maid/Matron of Honor planned her bachelorette without asking the other BM’s for any input or suggestions..not that big of deal. So the bach. party was yesterday and the plan was we rented a house for the weekend. I was kind of annoyed with the price, but the Maid/Matron of Honor kept saying there were tons of wineries within walking distance and lots to do. She wrote in her emails that she wasnt planning anything to do down there that we would just “figure it out.” I did not think that was a good idea, I figured we should plan something so it was special for the bride, and offered to book some winery tours but she told me not to. So yesterday when all the girls were sitting around the house and the bride asked what we had plan, we said nothing. We decided to go to wineries and while I was outside doing something else, the Maid/Matron of Honor and the brides friend booked a limo to drive us around to the wineries. It was a nice day and fun, but we couldnt even go to half the wineries because we didnt call ahead (hmm maybe that would have been a good idea!!) Anyway at the end of the night we find out everyone owes $105 for the limo! I was pretty annoyed. I wouldnt have minded spending that much if I knew ahead of time, but i was shocked. We already payed a ton for the house and food/drinks. The girl who put the limo on her credit card was annoyed that I didnt have enough cash to give her. How was I suppose to know?! Do you think I am overreacting or do I have a right to be annoyed? Now I have to come up with extra money to pay for limo
Post # 3
I don’t think you are in the wrong. In my experience, I think bachelorette parties should not only have a plan of scheduled events, but the price should be agreed upon beforehand.
What they did wasn’t fair to you or the bride.
In my experience (and what my Maid/Matron of Honor is doing) is planning the event with all of my BM’s input…then, she relayed the plan to all of my non-bridal party friends. It works out well this way because the BMs can agree upon events and prices and then they can tell everyone else the plan.
I’m sorry that sucks. I would probably write an e-mail to the Maid/Matron of Honor if it really bothers you and just gently remind her that for any future events its really important for you to have an idea of what things will cost.
Post # 4
My Maid/Matron of Honor planned my bachelorette party without consulting the others too and I was a little annoyed with that. I even had to tell them what the plan was. I cut her some slack because I knew she was busy teaching and switching positions at the school. However, that is unacceptable and disrespectful behavior. The bride shouldn’t have to deal with this but it may be a good idea to bring this to her attention so that she can address the issue with her Maid/Matron of Honor. It shouldn’t be y’alls responsibility.
Post # 5
You definitely have a right to be annoyed! I just went to a bachelorette party, and the bridesmaid who planned it and sent out the invitations specifically told us what would be provided (drinks and appetizers at her house, and transportation) and what we would need to cover ourselves (manicures, dinner, and chipping in for the bride). It was super helpful to know exactly what we needed to pay for upfront… I would be pissed if there were surprise, last-minute costs at the end, AND that my offers of help were flat-out rejected!
Post # 6
That is definitely rude and made it more stressful than it had to be.
Those types of things need to be planned out, to a degree, and price needs to be reasonable for all expected/planning on contributing.
Post # 7
What the Maid/Matron of Honor did was very inconsiderate. Being a Bridesmaid or Best Man can get very expensive and anyone planning an events where they require people to pay their share should let everyone know of the prices ahead of time.
Post # 8
yeah, you have every right to be a bit annoyed. bach parties should be planned and priced out ahead of time to avoid unexpected surprises like owing more money and not being able to get into wineries. i would still pay the $100 though. i know it sucks. lesson learned hopefully for all of the bm’s and especially moh.