(Closed) How would you feel about this? kind of long!

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
2416 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t think you are in the wrong. In my experience, I think bachelorette parties should not only have a plan of scheduled events, but the price should be agreed upon beforehand.

What they did wasn’t fair to you or the bride.

In my experience (and what my Maid/Matron of Honor is doing) is planning the event with all of my BM’s input…then, she relayed the plan to all of my non-bridal party friends. It works out well this way because the BMs can agree upon events and prices and then they can tell everyone else the plan.

I’m sorry that sucks. I would probably write an e-mail to the Maid/Matron of Honor if it really bothers you and just gently remind her that for any future events its really important for you to have an idea of what things will cost.

Post # 4
143 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My Maid/Matron of Honor planned my bachelorette party without consulting the others too and I was a little annoyed with that. I even had to tell them what the plan was. I cut her some slack because I knew she was busy teaching and switching positions at the school. However, that is unacceptable and disrespectful behavior. The bride shouldn’t have to deal with this but it may be a good idea to bring this to her attention so that she can address the issue with her Maid/Matron of Honor. It shouldn’t be y’alls responsibility.

Post # 5
3668 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

You definitely have a right to be annoyed! I just went to a bachelorette party, and the bridesmaid who planned it and sent out the invitations specifically told us what would be provided (drinks and appetizers at her house, and transportation) and what we would need to cover ourselves (manicures, dinner, and chipping in for the bride). It was super helpful to know exactly what we needed to pay for upfront… I would be pissed if there were surprise, last-minute costs at the end, AND that my offers of help were flat-out rejected!

Post # 6
6893 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

That is definitely rude and made it more stressful than it had to be.

Those types of things need to be planned out, to a degree, and price needs to be reasonable for all expected/planning on contributing.

Post # 7
124 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

What the Maid/Matron of Honor did was very inconsiderate.  Being a Bridesmaid or Best Man can get very expensive and anyone planning an events where they require people to pay their share should let everyone know of the prices ahead of time.

Post # 8
11273 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

yeah, you have every right to be a bit annoyed.  bach parties should be planned and priced out ahead of time to avoid unexpected surprises like owing more money and not being able to get into wineries.  i would still pay the $100 though.  i know it sucks.  lesson learned hopefully for all of the bm’s and especially moh.

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