How would you feel about your fiance having strippers at his bachelor party?

posted 3 years ago in Parties
  • poll: How do you feel about strippers at your fiance's bachelor party?
    Over my dead body! There'd be no wedding after if he did. : (91 votes)
    24 %
    I wouldn't tell him what to do, but I wouldn't like it. : (108 votes)
    28 %
    Hell yes! I love watching strippers with my fiance. Mmmmm titties. : (46 votes)
    12 %
    Only if I have strippers too, to make it even. : (20 votes)
    5 %
    I don't really care. : (87 votes)
    23 %
    I'd be furious and make his life hell for a while, but I'd still marry him. : (32 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1362 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

    I need an “I don’t really have a preference either way” option.  I laughed out loud when I read option 3.. Mmm titties, hahahaha!!

    FI and I have been to strip clubs before.  He’s not a huge boobies and ass kind of guy, so I wouldn’t be worried about it.  But touching kind of skeeves me.  So that would be an itchy subject for me.

    Post # 4
    Member
    633 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    @sarahfw:  I fall somewhere between your poll options… I wouldn’t call off the wedding over it but I would definitely make it known that I was opposed to the idea and I would be upset afterwards.

    Post # 5
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    63 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    I wouldn’t care at all!! But FI would totally care if I got strippers though… so I doubt it would ever even come up!

    Post # 6
    Member
    1745 posts
    Bumble bee

    @sarahfw:  I would not encourage strippers but I would not be upset about it either.

    Post # 7
    Member
    7195 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’m not OK with strippers at any time. DH and I have always been on the same page about this. And if something’s not acceptable in a relationship, it doesn’t become acceptable because one of them is at a bachelor(ette) party.

    Post # 9
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    192 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    It doesn’t really bother me. Plus, I know my MOH plans on hiring one for mine, even though I told her I would be mortified. I know FI loves me and I completely trust him. Of course I don’t like him looking at other naked women, but I don’t think of it as cheating. I told him the only rules I have about his bachelor party are to keep his mouth and man bits to himself and have fun. Hands can be washed free of yucky things, mouth and genitalia, not always. I’m not worried about it.

    Post # 10
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    2150 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I’m lucky in that FI doesn’t like strip clubs. I don’t blame him. 

    He has respect for women, therefore, he won’t patronize a strip club. His bachelor party is going to be at a cabin in the woods of West Virginia and they’re all going to go white water rafting.

    But, he has been to a strip club while we’ve been dating for his brother’s bachelor party, and I really didn’t care at all. Because I knew he wasn’t there drooling over the girls.

    Post # 12
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    2878 posts
    Sugar bee

    @sarahfw:  If that happens, this is not going to be because he asked for it. My FI is so shy, and he isn’t really interested in that type of ”activity”. However, he’s definitely a voyeur. Honestly, it think it would amuse me more than anything. FI asked me this exact question the other day, if I was going to be mad if there was a stripper (we were watching a movie in which it happened) and frankly, he looked disappointed that I said it wouldn’t really bother me. I think he was hoping for a little bit of jealousy/possessivity, but I don’t know … I really don’t see the big deal, unless he starts fondling and kissing her and whatnot. But looking at a stripper doing her thing – stripping, it’s okay. But I would prefer he watches something more classy, like a burlesque stripper. That would be more his style.

    Post # 13
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    365 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013 - The Fox Hill Inn

    It wouldn’t really bother me. DH and I have been to a strip club together (for a friend’s wedding in Vegas, oy). I know he wouldn’t do anything and they kinda skeeve him out anyway. I know he’s been to a lot of bachelor parties with strippers before, no reason that his own would be different – In fact I teased him about it before his. He ended up not having any, but not because I told him not to.

    Post # 14
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    1838 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    yeah i need an “indifferent” option. i don’t LOVE it and don’t want anything to do with it, but i’m fine with it

    Post # 16
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    7195 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @sarahfw:  Um, so what happens during a lap dance? Does the girl levitate?

    I would not accept the double standard your FI is proposing.

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