I would be happy that he wants to marry me! I’m in a bit of a similar position as you, so maybe I can help put it in persepctive.
My boyfriend and I are coming up on the two-year mark, and he’s not totally sure of our future together. He said he wants to know whether or not he wants to marry me by the two-year mark, so we’ve been having a lot of discussions about the future lately, mostly initiated by him. He loves me to pieces, and all that mushy stuff, but there are still a lot of unknowns on his side.
For instance, his family lives overseas, and I haven’t seen them in a year, nor have I met his extended family at all, so he’s not sure how accepting they will be of me (being of a different race, culture, and nationality), and he wants me to get a chance to interact with them more. (We may move to this location – Hong Kong – in a few years, if we stay together, so this is somewhat important to know, I guess.)
Also, we are both just starting out in our careers, and he has expressed a desire for both of us to get a little more established before combining our lives together.
There are some other smaller “issues” as well that he is uncertain on, but you get the idea.
A couple weeks ago, he said he couldn’t see himself getting engaged for at least another 2 years. I agree with him that we both need to get a bit more settled in our lives and figure a few things out first, so I understand where he’s coming from there. I am patient, and I can wait it out.
But I would feel more comfortable waiting if I knew that he had every intention of marrying me~ and right now, he’s not 100% sure. I told him that he doesn’t have to know by our two-year anniversary, and if it takes him longer, that’s fine~ I won’t go anywhere. I love him, and don’t want him to feel pressured by this arbitrary timeline he’s schemed up.
But if he told me he DEFINITELY wanted to get married at some point in the future, I would be super excited. At least then I would know that I’m not being strung along and I would feel that we are both truly and equally committed to the relationship.
So, with regards to your situation, I think that you should at least be happy that your guy wants you in his future, and has marriage on the brain. And as other posters have said, a year or two is not that much in the grand scheme of things. It will fly by before you know it! And you may not even have to wait that long either. So I think that it’s a good thing, and you should focus on the positives in this situation. Hope this helps! =]