Post # 1
…Tootsie or Toots?
I have a coworker who has taken to calling a few of us Tootsie or Toots, and it drives me nuts! Both versions of the nickname make my skin crawl. No matter how I look at it, it seems disrespectful and just super inappropriate for a professional office.
Am I crazy or is my reaction normal?
Post # 3
Would it be said to a man? I doubt it. I would lose my shit if someone called me that at work.
Post # 4
ON HELL NO INDEED!
It is most definitely disrespectful and unproffessional. This isn’t 1955 and you aren’t a secretary at an ad firm, so WTF?!?! I would pull him aside and give him a talking to.
Post # 5
Super annoying – I HATE when people call me pet names. I know some people find it sweet and/or endearing, but I think its degrading and belittles me. I HATE it.
Post # 6
@ImmaBee: My dad calls me that sometimes and I think it’s cute.
In the office however it’s a different story…I think I would give the person a death stare or a “What did you just say??” stare. See if that shuts them up.
Post # 7
Eh, I would be annoyed but wouldn’t call them out on it. I am guilty of calling people “Hun”
Post # 8
@SillyStacey: Here’s the twist: my coworker is a woman! I still find it incredibly disrespectful, though, regardless of gender.
@DaisyBelle: Oh yeah, it’s quite different if a loved one calls you that and you are used to it.
@MrsTVLover: and @Sea_Ashley: Glad I’m not the only one!
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016
I had a friend in highschool who always called me ‘toots’. It was super annoying, but I just tried to ignore it aha
Post # 10
My FI calls me Toots. It’s cute! But I can understand how you might not like it from a co-worker. It depends on my relationship with the co-worker, if she was a fun person that I enjoyed I wouldn’t mind, but if I didn’t particularly care for her I’d probably be annoyed. I voted I wouldn’t care because most likely, I wouldn’t.
Post # 11
Is the co-worker a man or a woman? Call me sexist, but I would be annoyed by a man doing this, and wouldn’t care so much if it was from another woman.
Post # 12
I don’t think calling anyone of any sex any pet name in the work place is appropriate. I have one coworker (female) who calls me baby. She means well but it annoys me. I had another one who kept making the “kiss kiss” face at me and finally stopped when i kept ignoring her beacuse it gave me the creeps… I don’t call anyone at work sweetie or dear or honey or anything like that! It’s WORK!
Post # 13
@jny1179: I agree with you; it’d be different if she was a fun, joking type of person who I enjoyed being around/had a frienship with. But we don’t have that kind of rapport so it rubs me the wrong way.
@bunnymama: My coworker is a woman. However, this isn’t the first time that she’s given me some creepy vibes so I think that’s why her gender isn’t a factor for me.
Post # 14
I hate being addressed by pet names, especially in an office setting. I have several coworkers (female) who call other females “sweetie”, etc.
Of course, context is everything: if you’re the type that calls everyone that, whatever…but if you’re using it to be patronizing, THAT is when I get annoyed.
Post # 15
@ImmaBee: Umm absolutely NOT by a co-worker. My mom calls me it to be silly, but never by a co-worker.
Post # 16
@ImmaBee: I don’t care what people call me until I feel that whatever they decide to call me is being said with distain, disrespect or innappropriate connotation…I’ve got a sense of humor, I know that a lot of people aren’t good with names and go with a one size fits all name for people…Toots, stretch, gorgeous, babe, honey, punkin….you name it, I’ve been called it and with very few exceptions I honestly don’t mind because I know its not supposed to be upsetting or mean….
People take things way to seriously anymore…I make it a point to almost never do that.