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I was wondering how would people feel if someone proposed to their SO at your wedding. I would be mad because it is my day, and people should do things like that on their own time and dime.
Your thoughts?
Annoyed for sure :) I just think it is generally bad form to do something that will purposely take the focus off the B&G.
Hmm I have heard of this happening. I think its kinda werid since like you said it is their day..But I guess if you asked the couple who are getting married and they say sure then I guess it wouldn't be a problem. But I have to say for me..I would not like it very much!
I think it depends on who the people were that got engaged...
I will say that one of my best friends and bridesmaid has been in a serious relationship for almost three years and I have daydreams of him proposing at our wedding and getting to announce it to all our friends there! That, for me, would make the day double special and my friends and I would always share that significant date...
If it was someone I didn't know, I'd probably not be super-pleased but still prolly wouldn't care that much, just be happy for them but not care that much...
Yeah. I remember seeing this happen on the movie "THE BESTMAN". I guess they were cool with it. But that was a movie.
I totally agree. dont use my day as your time to ask your girlfriend to be your wife. not only is that personal, but i feel like the bride and groom have worked SOOOO hard to pull everything together for that day...don't steal their sunshine.
we got engaged about a month before this wedding we were invited to....the wedding was a HUGEEEEE heap of FI's former coworkers whom he hadnt seen for like 2 months prior because he had switched companies...they all had known we were getting engaged soon (just didnt know when) so when we got to the wedding, EVERYONE (like seriously 80 people from his old job) were congratulating us and asking us about the proposal, and when our wedding was goign to be...i felt REALLY bad and awkward because I felt like we had stolen a little of the spotlight from the bride and groom that day. luckilyfor us, they are a gracious, laidback and awesome couple. Can't say the same for myself!!! HAHAH I'd have been PISSED! lol.
I would HATE it!! I'm already dealing with a future aunt that keeps bringing up that our wedding is on her daughter's "special day" aka birthday.
I think it's tacky 
. And if i was the woman, I'd be mortified. I want my own moment!
NOT.OK.
My brother went to a wedding where the bride's sister had been horrible through the whole planning process because she was so upset about not being the center of attention. She ended up forcing her boyfriend to propose to her at the reception. I would have lost it. My bro said it was super awkward for everyone there.
I would probably be upset. As many have pointed out on this website, the bride gets a day, not a weekend or a week or a month or a year. THIS IS MY DAY! FI and I get 24 hours to be the center of attention, don't be stealing my thunder!
Or, if you really want to propose on that specific day, be respectful of your hosts (aka the bride and groom) and don't do it at the wedding. Leave early, go for a walk, and propose on your own time. And don't come back to the reception to announce it. Enjoy it on your own.
If you propose at my wedding, I'll announce I'm knocked up at yours 
*stepping off my soap box*
Id be happy for the couple but honestly Id be upset. Id think they could at least wait until the next day :)
On a normal day, I'm ecstatic when my friends get engaged. I love my friends, and I want them to be happy.
However, we each deserve OUR one day, and I would be extremely upset if my day were interrupted by a proposal.
I know that sounds awful, but I'm just asking for my one day of wedding bliss.
@trailmix: yeah that would be different. I am pretty sure that they guy would run it past you first. I am pretty sure that none of my friends would want it to happen that way because they would want to have their own special event.
But I wouldn't be surprised if one of them gets engaged on my wedding day because we are getting married on New Years Day (but just not during the wedding festivities).
HAHAHA Goldilocks, I took it one step further in my mind...If you announce your proposal at mine, I'll give birth at yours!!! HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA (ok, im sick. i know. I need help.)
Nope. No way. If anyone ever proposed at another wedding, I would feel mortified for that couple. Just so wrong in so many ways.
I'd be a little ticked.
The only way I'd be okay with it is if the guy talked to me about it first. And they'd both have to be REALLY good friends for me to be okay with this.
Maybe it's mean spirited, but I'll be honest and admit I wouldn't be too happy about it. I guess if it was a special couple, like trailmix's example, I might not be that upset, but I'm sure I would feel at least a twinge of "Seriously? Are you kidding me?"
My brother wanted to propose to his gf on my wedding...I would be a little annoyed but to be perfectly honest I just don't get why someone would want to propese like that...It s so not personal plus both things will be associated together FOREVER.
@realeastecoaster: I agree. I think this is one time where my friends wouldn't want to share with me. They would be too afraid that everyone would think that they are jealous or trying to copy me. lol
I think it depends how it was done. The way I can imagine having been alright with it is if the couple slipped away for some private moments and it happened then, we had it outside in a garden and quite a romantic set up. But then just announcing it somewhat quitely to let the bride and groom still be the focus. If they made a huge deal out of it and were like OMG and crying gallore, yeah I would be irritated, like hey you're all supposed to be out here dancing.
Against the grain here, I honestly wouldn't be upset, I'd be happy! That's so exciting! NMS to get engaged at someone's wedding, but weddings are all about starting new families and taking relationships to that next level. I think it's kind of romantic that someone would potentially feel so blissed out and happy enough at my wedding to begin their engagement there!
Wow, looks like I'm in the minority here! A couple of my BMs are close to getting engaged, and I've always thought it would be very romantic if their one of their BFs proposed at our wedding. I guess I never thought it would take everyone's attention off of me for more than 5-10 minutes (i.e. the proposal itself). But I might be too optimistic about this since I've never seen it done.
However, I do think you should ask the bride and groom ahead of time to make sure it's okay. And I wouldn't blame a bride for being annoyed by someone proposing on her day...I just think that I personally wouldn't mind it.
Eh, if they asked me ahead of time I would probably be okay with it and help them arrange a time during the reception to accomodate.
If they DIDN'T ask me and just did it...I would be very pissed off, but I would try to be gracious about it.
I think it could actually be really special if the couple is close with the bride and groom (and the bride and groom should probably get a heads up). i actually would be ecstatic if one of my good friends got engaged at my wedding - they'd always remember my anniversary! Especially if it was a destination wedding, and they took a few minutes away from the party to step outside or something.
Of course, on the flip side, i think i'd be embarrassed if i was the one proposed to at a wedding, and would be worried i'd be stealing the bride's thunder. So i guess i can see both sides :)
If it was someone who I was close to and new about it beforehand I would be extatic. It it was someone who I didn't really know then I would be upset.
I think that would be horrible. I am a laid back person, but that would be in poor taste. If they talked to me about it beforehand, that would probably be all right so I could arrange something toward the end of the night. Out of nowhere? Yikes.
I'm surprised that this would bother so many people. I think it would be fun and cool if a couple got engaged at our wedding.
I really don't think it's an appropriate time to get engaged, especially if they are just a friend. I guess I could understand if they are a family member since it's all their family there too.
I agree with others that the bride and groom should be told in advance so it isn't a surprise.
I would be annoyed, but not because I'm the type of girl that loves the limelight and wants the entire day to be about my wedding. The reason I would be annoyed because I just think it's in poor taste and they should just assume that it's "my day" and not try to take away from it. So in essence, I wouldn't be upset if it took attention away from my day, I would be upset at the guy who proposed because I think it's totally inconsiderate.
I dunno, but I think @texasmeredith has the right idea. Not asking before hand wouldn't be cool. The bride and groom have put a ton of time and effort (and probably money) into making this one day special to them and for them and their families. To piggyback on their special moment that they've worked hard to create seems kind of ... awkward. If my FI had proposed at someone else's wedding I would've felt like a romance moocher! Like, of course it was beautiful and romantic - the bride and groom busted their asses to make sure it was! If you want a beautiful romantic mood for your own engagement, maybe you should've been the one busting your ass to make that opportunity :)
But there's a big difference between mooching and sharing. If the couple was close to the bride and groom, and if the proposer had checked with the couple before hand, and worked out a way to do it that would either compliment their wedding, or be subtle enough not to distract from it, then I think it could be a really special moment for everyone. I think it all depends of if it looks like you're trying to hijack the bride and groom's moment or add to everyone's joy.
I agree with you! For a couple to have a new beginning, it's a never ending chain... and everyone will always remember how and when it happened. And I agree with has been said, if it's done privately and romantically, it be really sweet. :-)
Same here! Communication is key... it can be done in a good and memoriable way for all parties involved. 
It would bother me. More so if they did it like an announcement in front of everyone. But if the guy pulled his girlfriend off to a private space and then told us about it in a less public manner I think I'd be ok with it and happy for them.
I know I'd be embarrassed if I was proposed to at someone else's wedding.
@ChitChat: you raise a good point. There is a difference between mooching and adding to the joy.
I think it does depend on how it's done but this topic got me thinking. My husband proposed to me on a trip that ended with us attending our friends' wedding. We went for a one week vacation with his parents through a few countries in Europe, then to another country in Europe for the wedding for a few days. By the time we got to the wedding (which was really a whole bunch of events before and after), we'd been engaged for a few days and the bride and groom and some of the guests knew it. I feel like maybe we stole a bit of their thunder? They didn't seem to mind and it didn't come up on the actual wedding day (since we saw each other for about 4 days before the wedding), but now I really do hope they didn't mind!
I prob wouldn't be upset persay, but def would be weirded out. I just think that would be so weird and awkward for someone to do!
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