(Closed) How would you feel if this was your new job?

posted 6 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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Busy bee

That is so strange. I would NOT be okay with this, though am unsure of the “legal” issues. Cruel and unusual punishment?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I wouldn’t take this so seriously. If you’re called out to do something stupid in front of the group, just stay seated and decline.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I wouldn’t be too pleased about it, but I think telling the instructor you are not a monkey and to meet you in HR is suicide. How can you even hold a job if you social anxiety is THAT bad? I am a bit confused here. Dancing over breaking a rule is silly and if an employee who is newly hired pulled the ” I’m not doing it card” I’d show them the door. Not to be harsh or anything, but c’mon. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

A lot of companies do those types of things as ice breakers in development meetings, so it’s highly doubtful you’d have any leverage in HR.  You’d just be shown the door.

 

I agree with everything CallmeC said.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’ve had some of these “cool” and “new” techniques pop up from time to time. Usually by people who feel insecure in their leading skills and are terribly overmotivated. I’d understand it in highschool, but in such a professional setting.. ugh. 

I think you have two options: just say no (no one can make you dance, unless your profession is dancing and you agreed to do it beforehand) or learn an awesome dance routine, possibly with some of your classmates, and blow everyone away if he calls you up 😉 I believe this has been done in a lot of videos you can find online.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Legal issues aside, I think treating adults like that is ridiculous.  I don’t consider myself to be an exceptionally shy person, and I would have issue with this. I think doing something in an “ice-breaker” setting is different because there isn’t one person being singled out for “punishment.”  I don’t know if it’s worth quitting a job over, but it would rub me the wrong way. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I would not be okay with this. at all. Most people would be, but like you I also have bad anxiety.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I hate ice breakers too. HATE. It takes me a long time to warm up to people and nothing gets my hackles up more than being forced into getting to know someone. Don’t let me first post lull you into thinking I’d wanna dance, hell no I wouldn’t. And I was a dancer for more than half my life. All that forced ” We are so fun and kooky and want to get to know each other!!!!11″ crap is just that- crap. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

@ccantics:  I’m different than you and I would just such it up and do it (although I’m rarely late and I would do EVERYTHING in my power to make sure I did nothing to warrant that type of punishment). However I don’t really agree with how people seem to be brushing it off like you should deal with it, it is weird and innapropriate, I don’t know that its illegal but it is unprofessional, and if it gives you that much anxiety you obviously will not be able to just deal with it. I would suggest just crossing that bridge should you get there, hopefully you will never be asked to do it, if you are just say no, if they put you on the spot, make you uncomfortable, etc. I would just walk out and leave that job behind. Don’t humiliate the trainer, don’t ask to go to HR, those things will only hurt you in the long run, but if you have to quit I would be sure to make HR aware of why you quit, and I would probably try to write a letter/ get in touch with corporate about the situation.

I recently watched an episode of undercover boss (I know super random) and one of the managers was doing things like this to his staff, the owner was horrified when he found out and made sure to correct his actions.

Anyways, good luck!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I am a very outgoing person who loves to dance, but this is rediculous. I would not participate and I might even ask if this is something that has to happen in order to work there because if it was it would not be the place for me. 

I don’t think you are in the wrong for not wanting to participate in this. Social anxiety is real and office’s need to respect that people are different and respond differently to these “new” tactics.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would go to HR now and tell them the training is creating a hostile environment. I’m pretty outgoing and not shy and I’d be mortified by being made to purposely dance and look stupid in front of other people.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m a pretty shy person but I think the dancing idea is pretty hilarious. Going to HR over something like this is pretty much career suicide at a financial institution. You’re expected to be “one of the boys” if you ever want to succeed. People at training will either be laughing with you or checking their blackberry while completely ignoring what is happening.

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