How would you feel if you had wedding crashers?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: I would be upset if someone crashed my wedding... (3 part poll)
    1) at all : (87 votes)
    20 %
    2) and danced with the crowd : (22 votes)
    5 %
    3) and drew attention to themselves with their dancing : (56 votes)
    13 %
    4) and talked to my guests : (23 votes)
    5 %
    5) and drank from the bar : (68 votes)
    16 %
    6) and ate the food : (71 votes)
    17 %
    7) and ate cake/dessert : (58 votes)
    14 %
    8) and congratulated us (the bride and groom) : (21 votes)
    5 %
    9) I wouldn't be upset by any of it! : (21 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 4
    190 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011 - Epworth UMC & Ward Pavilion

    I never have and I never would because I’d be so paranoid, but I think if any show up at our wedding, we’ll just be like, meh, whater, the more the merrier!

    Post # 5
    7293 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I wouldn’t mind if mine was crashed and I think it would be awesome to crash one! I like excitement ! (of course not in the popular movie idea of having sex with a bridal party member lol)

    Post # 6
    143 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I’ve never crashed, and as much as I want to be laid back, I think I’d be pretty upset if anyone crashed mine – mostly because at weddings I’ve been at where someone has crashed, the crasher has been a drunken, disastrous mess!

    Post # 7
    428 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I honestly think wedding crashing is tacky. So is bringing someone who is not invited.

    I attended a wedding last year where the 2 guests that couldn’t make it thought it was okay to replace them with 2 other guests that the bride and groom didn’t even know. They were there for the WHOLE thing. Food, dancing, Dessert, the works!

    I do however think it wouldn’t be a huge deal if someone showed up JUST for dancing towards the end of the night. That’s acceptable for me. I just wouldn’t want them mooching on my wedding that I PAID for!

    Post # 8
    66 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I feel kind of bad about this, but I did crash a wedding with my bestie once. We were out of town, visiting my grandma. We went to the local hotel for a drink (my grandma lives in a really small town of less than 1000 people) so the hotel bar was empty and we asked the bartender what was going on in town that night. He told us about a wedding taking place at the local rec center so we decided to check it out. It’s not like we ate free food, or anything like that. We bought a drink at the bar, danced for awhile, took our picture with the bride and then took off. It was actually a very laid back wedding, everyone was in blue jeans and cowboy boots. We definitely stood out.

    Post # 9
    7082 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2009

    We had wedding crashers and loved it.  Granted it was all friends we hadn’t invited, but there was enough food to go around and plenty of booze, so it was all good!

    Post # 11
    550 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    We had about 5 folks that weren’t invited show up. They ate and drank. When I finally got around to noticing them there, I walked right up and told them they weren’t invited for a reason and get out or I would have someone show them out. I was annoyed, but didn’t let it ruin my evening.

    OP- In your case, I don’t think I would mind that kind of crashing at all. :o)

    Post # 12
    646 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Since I’m paying a flat rate for alcohol based on my number of invited guests, the only thing that would bother me is if they jumped into pictures. Otherwise, I’m just going to enjoy my wedding.

    Post # 14
    646 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @ddw: I’m more concerned about them jumping into a pic with me and my college girls or something!

    Post # 15
    2161 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    It’s custom here to open up the dance to co-workers, distant friends, etc…   Anyone can come to the dance, so technically, we had a lot of wedding crashers!  🙂

    Post # 16
    3126 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    No one crashed our wedding but one guest did add a plus one that I told her wasn’t invited. It was someone I didn’t particularly want there to begin with but honestly I had so much fun with everyone else it didn’t matter.

    I have never crashed a wedding.

    I would be okay with someone crashing my wedding if it was a buffet. Plated dinner- not so much.

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