(Closed) How would you feel if your best friend got engaged around the same time as you?

posted 5 years ago in Proposals
  • poll: How would becoming engaged shortly after your close friend affect you?
    I wouldn't like it because I wouldn't get as much attention. : (11 votes)
    5 %
    I wouldn't care. I'm engaged. Woohoo! : (49 votes)
    23 %
    That'd be awesome! I have someone to vent to and plan with!! : (147 votes)
    69 %
    I have no friends. : (5 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I wouldn’t be upset unless she was having the wedding on the same day or something, was overly annoying or showy about her ring or tried to say her stuff is better than yours somehow.

    Post # 4
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    1975 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @Mrs Christopher:  + 1

    it depends what relationship you have with your friend.

    Post # 5
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    4719 posts
    Honey bee

    If it was TRULY a friend and not one of those “frenimies” that I’ve had way too many of, I would be happy for her and go to wedding expos and dress shopping and whatever with her. It’d be especially nice if our dates were somewhat close together, so we would always be on the same page.

    As long as she didn’t get jealous of the fact that my wedding was most important to me, it wouldn’t be an issue. I had a friend once who exploded on me because I was putting my relationship ahead of her wedding planning (I was supposed to be MOH). The problem was: the wedding was 2 full years away. 

    I kicked her to the curb real fast. 

    Post # 6
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    67 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Actually, my best friend and I have been engaged at the same time, before. Both were bad and we got out.

    Well, again, she was engaged and then I got engaged, too. For us, it was no big deal because she got married a few weeks ago and mine isn’t until June of 2013. 

    I’ve actually had a few friends get engaged /married recently. In one case, it’s SUCH a freaking blessing because she knows like EVERYTHING! She is a master DIY’er and has offered to do whole projects for my wedding with or without me. She looks up cheaper options for everything I find.

    In another case, I was a little upset. Their wedding was GOING to be about a month before mine and they were going to have the same first dance song as me. We have A LOT of the same friends, and it would look like I was copying instead of it being this unique idea I’ve had since I was in like the 8th grade. (It’s a Metallica song) It turned out ok, though, because theirs ended up getting moved to the year after until she’s out of school.

     

    I think it will end up being fun for you! You guys could split up vendors or go together when your FI’s decide they don’t want to do it, lol.

    Post # 7
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    1212 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Thrilled – I’m actually dying for one of my oldest friends to get engaged and would have loved to do a double celebration with her. I’m annoyed her SO hasn’t proposed already to be honest, it’s ridiculous. I can’t imagine that I’d feel any other way for her. We are both 38 and it’s about time damnit!

    Post # 8
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    807 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    My best friend probably is getting engaged soon and I think it will be awesome! Granted, neither of us are “The world must stop! I’m getting married!” type of people. If anything, I would feel less guilty about talking about wedding-related things all the time…because then it would be the first thing on her mind as well haha.

    Post # 11
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    11753 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Psyched! One of our closest couple friends just got engaged and I am pumped to have someone to do wedding stuff with!  I hate annoying all my non-engaged, non-married friends with wedding talk all the time, so now I have someone to do it with that won’t get annoyed!

    Post # 12
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    308 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I was the friend that got engaged shortly after my long-time BFF.  I also got married 3 mos before her.  I felt somewhat guilty- but- whatever.  It did cause some issues.  She used her wedding as every possible excuse to make the other bridesmaids to pay for things in my wedding….. and I’ve not exactly spared any expenses for hers. 

    Post # 13
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    3453 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I would be happy for her and for myself.

    Post # 14
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    One of my best friends and I DID get engaged within months of one another, and I LOVE it! She’s getting married in May and I’m getting married next October 🙂 We’re both bridesmaids in eachother’s weddings! We both get to chew eachother’s ears off with wedding talk instead of everyone else’s who just don’t understand and aren’t all excited about the nitty gritty details of wedding planning lol

    Post # 15
    Hostess
    7561 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I would love it! I don’t understand how some women are so selfish about engagements…share the love! No one can take away from my joy, only add to it. 

    Post # 16
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    945 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    My best friend got engaged 3 days after me. I couldn’t have been happier for her if I tried. It was so fun having someone to share that with who knew exactly how I was feeling. She’s married now, but I still look to her for guidance.

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