(Closed) How would you feel if your child called someone else “mommy”?

posted 7 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’d be angry.  However, my guess is she added mommy to make her stories sound cute.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’d be crushed (at least I assume – I don’t have kids yet).  I can’t even call my MIL “mom”.  She’s great and I love her to pieces but she isn’t and never will be my mom.  That title belongs to one woman and one woman only.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

It would crush me. My son once said something about his step mom being mommy and I cried. I am his mother, not her. He calls my DH by his name not daddy, because, although he is a father figure, he is not his biological dad.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

OMG NO, I couldn’t stand it.  My kids have a stepmom, but they call her by her first name.  And then add to that the insult that this is a former “friend” who your husband cheated on you with?  I cannot even imagine. 

 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I agree with the other Bees, I’d be crushed 🙁

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I should clarify, I would be angry at the step-mom for posting this and for encouraging it. I’d be very sad if my child felt that he/she’s step-mom were their mother.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Wow… I would be devastated!  That poor girl… she did nothing wrong and yet gets half custody.  I would totally press for full custody!  I feel terrible for her, and yes, if I was in her place, I would be absolutely crushed.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

No and if I were Jane, I’d slap Anne. 

Honestly, if FI’s son ever referred to me as mom or anything close, I’d be horrified and correct him. I’m not his mom. 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@UpstateCait:  Ugh!  I wonder if she told him to call her “mommy” and since he’s a child he just goes along with it.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

It is up to the kids real mother to say if this is ok or not. My neice is a stepmother, and her 6 year old stepdaughter calls her MammaMia, or Ma. Her real mother is Mom or Mommy. My neice was raised in a house with a stepdad, that she called Pop, but Dad was reserved for her real father. It’s possible in this relationship Mom or Mama is his real mom and Mommy is reserved for the step-mom.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

It depends…I think in this situation, I would be really hurt. However, my godson calls me mom and has always called me mom his whole life. My daughter also called my best friend mom until she got older. I never asked her to stop doing it…she did on her own. Now a heffah who was cheating with my man is a horse of another color. I would put a stop to that. 

 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

One of FI’s friends has a kid and the kid’s mom is really awful, tries to keep the kid away from his dad at every turn, tries to turn the kid against his dad, etc. She was trying to get the boy to call her husband Daddy for awhile but thankfully it didn’t work. It’s pretty sad because it’s all about her ego, not about the kid–if he was closer with his stepdad than with his own dad that would be one thing, but that’s certainly not the case here.

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