How would you feel in this ring situation?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
3570 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think you should have a serious discussion with him first.  By choosing something for you he KNOWS you do not like, he is letting you know just how little your happiness means to him.  

Post # 4
3112 posts
Sugar bee

@loveislife:  I agree with PP.  Sounds like he doesn’t care how you feel.  Or is he possibly saying this so he can surprise you with your dream ring?  You should get a ring you like and love!

Post # 5
518 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Madison Surf Club

My first thought was that he’s trying to throw you off so he can surprise you. But I could be way off base!

Post # 6
1951 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@MrsTVLover:  +1

I don’t know why a guy would give a girl a ring that he KNOWS she doesn’t like. Now, if she had never said anything about it, that’s different. But if the OP explicitly said the ring really isn’t her, then he should probably get back to shopping. 

Though, perhaps finances are really tight, or maybe he really is trying to throw her off!

Post # 7
1959 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Miss Rucksack:  +1  Me too!

OP, for you’re sake I hope thats what’s he doing!

Post # 8
752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I think he’s trying to throw you off so he can surprise you!

Post # 10
1112 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yikes.  He’s already admitted he knows you don’t like it but he’;s going to give it anyways? Yikes.  That’s a terrible way to start off a marriage. I’d be worried that will set tyhe tone for the whole marriage? I also have an aweful poker face and wouldn’t be able to hide that dissapointment.  And he’s setting himself up here, because he’s going to get upset when you’re not over tyhe moon, but why should you have to lie about how you feel when he’s the one totally ignoring your wishes?


Sorry if my reply is rambly, i have a terrible head cold and i’m all fuzzy ><

Post # 11
2460 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

It sounds to me like he’s just saying that and will actually get you either the other ring, or a different one. I wouldn’t worry about it too much.

If it was me I would make a joke about the cluster one when he mentions it and see how he reacts. You should be able to gauge from his reaction if he’s serious or not, and if he is then tell him how you feel about it.

Post # 12
3222 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@loveislife:  is budget an issue?

Maybe he can’t afford the ring you love, hence why he is open to upgrading in a bit.

Post # 13
1503 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I hope he’s trying to throw you off!  I would be disappointed too  🙁

Post # 15
2319 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I hope it’s that he’s trying to throw you off so the ring can be a surpsie! ♥

Post # 16
3344 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

This is exactly why women should not be involved in picking out their own ring.

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