(Closed) How would you feel in this situation?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

I get that your hurt, you went to all of this trouble and your friend isn’t going to give you an inch…BUT, if it’s been a terribly, horrible, no good, very bad day, and they want to have a second to find their face before they open the gift so they can enjoy it…I think that’s all part of the gift giving process, you aren’t in charge of when they open it.

Post # 4
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Busy bee

Maybe they dont want to open it over the phone for fear of being put on the spot. I think you should relax a little about it. 🙂  I’m sure they will like it. Who doesn’t like gifts?!

Post # 5
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Worker bee

@MariaW:  You’re overreacting.  It’s possible that they don’t want to force excitement on the phone to another person and do the whole “Thank you so much, this is so great!” thing if they are tired and have had a long day.  Don’t read too much into it.

Post # 7
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Newbee

I wouldn’t worry about it at all. If I was busy and had a bad day and just wanted to have some me time (which is often) I hate the thought of last minute plans. Even if a great present is involved. I wouldn’t be offended at all 🙂

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You’re overreacting. People just font feel like fussing with the mail, unwrapping boxes, and making a mess when they’re just home from a long day.

There’s a stack of Amazon boxes by my front door, some are definitely gifts, waiting to be opened, and I’m not touching them till the weekend… And I telecommute!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Nona99:  Nicely said!

OP, please don’t hold it against your friend. I’m sure s/he just wants to enjoy the present and be excited about opening it, and if they’re having a crappy day and the experience of opening the gift is going to be more fun and rewarding tomorrow, then it’s best for both of you that they wait. Plus, hopefully the anticipation will make it that much better. 🙂

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

 I would be annoyed too- I love giving (and receiving) gifts and I’m always disappointed when the giftee isn’t as excited.  I mean, I understand not loving giving gifts, but who doesn’t get excited about receiving them?!  For me, a gift would brighten a long, stressful day.  But hey, everyone’s different and you may not know the specifics of their situation- I could conceivably imagine a mood where opening a gift even over the phone and having a reaction could be tiring and stressful and I’d rather just vegetate that night and be social the next day. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would be a little hurt too. Obviously you know it’s not that big of a deal, but I am always super excited to give/receive presents so I  can see being a little let down!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@MariaW:  Eh, I understand being bummed.  I get excited about thoughtful gifts too.  But, it is their gift and they should open it and thank you at their discretion.

So, I get where you’re coming from, but I still say you’re overreacting.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper

You MAY be overreacting but I understand where you are coming from!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@MariaW:  I totally understand why you’re bummed!  But like PPs said, it’s probably not the actual act of opening the present, but the whole engaging with another person thing.  Sometimes, after a full day, if someone calls me, I look at the phone and just put it back down.  It’s not because I don’t want to engage with that particular person, sometimes, it’s just too.much.work, and I just have nothing else.

You will both enjoy it more in the morning, when your friend is rested!

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