Post # 1
So, I got someone a present and mailed it and the tracking thing says it’s at their house. I told them to call me when they get back from work and we could open it over the phone, but they replied saying that they were tired and they would prefer to do that tomorrow instead. Granted, this person does work really long hours, and will only be getting home late in the evening, but it is also just opening a box and will take like 10 minutes (which they would probably spend watching tv or something).
I’m kind of hurt because if it were me and someone got me a present I would definitely be excited and open the box and call them ASAP. I feel like I went to the effort of getting them something special and they can’t even open the box. BUT, I’m also super hormonal today and am probably overreacting – in general I am much more excited than the recipient when presents are given, and most of the time I feel let down because the other person isn’t that excited.
What do you think?
Post # 3
I get that your hurt, you went to all of this trouble and your friend isn’t going to give you an inch…BUT, if it’s been a terribly, horrible, no good, very bad day, and they want to have a second to find their face before they open the gift so they can enjoy it…I think that’s all part of the gift giving process, you aren’t in charge of when they open it.
Post # 4
Maybe they dont want to open it over the phone for fear of being put on the spot. I think you should relax a little about it. 🙂 I’m sure they will like it. Who doesn’t like gifts?!
Post # 5
@MariaW: You’re overreacting. It’s possible that they don’t want to force excitement on the phone to another person and do the whole “Thank you so much, this is so great!” thing if they are tired and have had a long day. Don’t read too much into it.
Post # 6
See, that’s why I thought I’d ask you guys! I knew I was being dramatic.
@Jer72: We ALWAYS open presents on skype or on the phone. It’s our thing, so I don’t think it’s that. And yeah, I do need to relax.
@Nona99: You’re right – it could just have been a sucky day, at the end of a long week.
Post # 7
I wouldn’t worry about it at all. If I was busy and had a bad day and just wanted to have some me time (which is often) I hate the thought of last minute plans. Even if a great present is involved. I wouldn’t be offended at all 🙂
Post # 8
You’re overreacting. People just font feel like fussing with the mail, unwrapping boxes, and making a mess when they’re just home from a long day.
There’s a stack of Amazon boxes by my front door, some are definitely gifts, waiting to be opened, and I’m not touching them till the weekend… And I telecommute!
Post # 9
@Nona99: Nicely said!
OP, please don’t hold it against your friend. I’m sure s/he just wants to enjoy the present and be excited about opening it, and if they’re having a crappy day and the experience of opening the gift is going to be more fun and rewarding tomorrow, then it’s best for both of you that they wait. Plus, hopefully the anticipation will make it that much better. 🙂
Post # 10
I would be annoyed too- I love giving (and receiving) gifts and I’m always disappointed when the giftee isn’t as excited. I mean, I understand not loving giving gifts, but who doesn’t get excited about receiving them?! For me, a gift would brighten a long, stressful day. But hey, everyone’s different and you may not know the specifics of their situation- I could conceivably imagine a mood where opening a gift even over the phone and having a reaction could be tiring and stressful and I’d rather just vegetate that night and be social the next day.
Post # 11
I would be a little hurt too. Obviously you know it’s not that big of a deal, but I am always super excited to give/receive presents so I can see being a little let down!
Post # 12
It’s hard going through life considerably more excited about everything than most other people! =P
@fishbone: Omg, see that would not be possible for me. I would sit with the boxes and shake them and guess what was inside and smell them and everything!
Post # 13
@MariaW: Eh, I understand being bummed. I get excited about thoughtful gifts too. But, it is their gift and they should open it and thank you at their discretion.
So, I get where you’re coming from, but I still say you’re overreacting.
Post # 14
@JemmaWRX: Yeah, I thought I might be, which is why I figured it would be good to ask on here first.
Post # 15
You MAY be overreacting but I understand where you are coming from!
Post # 16
@MariaW: I totally understand why you’re bummed! But like PPs said, it’s probably not the actual act of opening the present, but the whole engaging with another person thing. Sometimes, after a full day, if someone calls me, I look at the phone and just put it back down. It’s not because I don’t want to engage with that particular person, sometimes, it’s just too.much.work, and I just have nothing else.
You will both enjoy it more in the morning, when your friend is rested!