- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
So on my moms side I have 12 cousins….10 of which are girls. On my dads side, I just have 2 girl cousins(they are sisters…we will call them A and B) that I am equally close to.
I got engaged in March, cousin B on my dads side got engaged in April. She is getting married at the end of August and I am the end of September. Since it is just my brother, myself and cousins A and B, we are all very close at family functions and text all the time, but really only see eachother a few times a year.
My bridal party (that was determined in May) consists of 2 sister in laws, my 2 very best friends from HS, my one cousin on my moms side that lived with us for awhile and is really more of a sister and is my Maid of Honor and then my closest friend from college. I stayed away from cousins (minusing out the one that lived with us) since I have 12 girl cousins when you add up both sides. For this reason, I did not have cousin A or B. I’d have them over any of my other family but it just wouldn’t be fair.
My plan this entire time was to have cousins A and B do the 1st and 2nd readings in Church and was going to ask them at Thanksgiving this year. Well we went out to eat with cousin B last night and she asked me to be in her wedding. While I am insanely honored and cannot wait and am so so so so excited, I just can’t help but feel bad that she isn’t in mine! Adding her as a Bridesmaid or Best Man in mine is kinda out of the question because that would be completely obvious and Fiance has currently half the amount of GM’s as I do BMs. I would have had her in a heart beat but I was just trying to be fair and not hurt anybodys feelings. My mom passed away so I was thinking of maybe having cousin A & B also light a candle in memory of my mom at the ceremony?
Talked to my grandma this morning and she said she knew cousin B was going to ask me and that she is completely aware I had my party picked and that it is hard since I have so many cousins and had some “have tos” since I already have a sister in law and FI’s sister, but she still wanted to ask me. So told me not to worry about it and to stop feeling bad.
My questions after this novel I wrote are (you can vote twice):
-Would you feel bad or am I just overreacting?
-Is it like a slap in the face if I ask her to be a reader and to light a candle?
HELP! Thanks girls 🙁