Post # 1
An OOT relative who is not close to you called to RSVP and told you they wanted to bring 2 strangers to your wedding that are friends of theirs…. basically it was described to me that they are hoping to have a get together with these friends and use my wedding as a vacation….thoughts?
Post # 3
I would say that they are welcome to enjoy a vacation in Texas but you’ve only reserved one (or two) spots for them. AKA – no rando’s allowed.
Post # 4
Tell them you don’t have room. I’m a big fan of every adult getting a plus one but a plus two is crazy!
Post # 5
I would not be ok with that. This is a personal event that celebrates you and your husband’s love, not someone’s weekend getaway. explain that you have budget and capacity guidelines to keep so unfortunately, they cannot attend.
moreover, as the extra person, I would feel awkward attending a wedding i wasn’t invited to and i dont know the bride and groom.
Post # 6
@lolaswann: So true about everything you said.
Why would they think your wedding is a good excuse for their get together? This person has obviously never planned a wedding. Maybe they can get together before or after you wedding and use that as excuse to be in the area together.
Post # 7
@Birdee106: ,@ssttpp: ,@lolaswann: I was in shock at what i was hearing over the phone and started to become angry so in order not to have a “moment” I told them “wow we have a really limited buget I can let you know closer to the RVP date”…
The more it settles in i’m really wondering are people really this disrespectful? i’m wrestling with being offended….
Post # 8
@ambereyez: It’s rude she asked, so there is no reason you can’t give a straight answer. “Unfortunately, we can only accomodate invited guests. I hope you can still make it to the wedding.”
Post # 9
@LadyX: LOL its worse….this relative is over 50 and has had their own wedding and vow renewal as well…
Post # 10
I would absolutely say no.