(Closed) How would you handle this family drama?

posted 7 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Which event should I go to?
    the baptism- you'll never hear the end of it : (6 votes)
    43 %
    one of the fun events- I was invited first, and if they wanted me, they should give me more notice : (6 votes)
    43 %
    other (please explain) : (2 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    762 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    They should mention it to you. But could you go to the baptism for a bit and then go to the other party for a while too?

    Post # 4
    Member
    686 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Go to the baptism but skip the party. If anyone throws a fit just tell them you had prior comittments that came first and that they are being rude by making you break them. 😛

    Post # 5
    Member
    267 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I agree with Potatoes, don’t ditch the entire event, you likely will never hear the end of it, but don’t completely give up on the other stuff you wanna do that day.  Sounds obnoxious, sorry.  Siblings can be hard, I’m having a lot of trouble with one of my sisters right now.

    Post # 6
    Member
    1347 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    What if you called your brother and said, “Hey, I want to go to your baby’s baptism. What time is it at?” That way, you make a genuine effort to go, you find out what time it’s at, make your fun plans, go to the baptism, then ditch out on the party for your July 4th fun time!

     

    Post # 7
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    2004 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2008

    I agree that you should try to attend the baptism itself, but that you can go to one of your other parties afterward. The 4th of July is a long day, and there will be many more to come, whereas this baptism is a one-time thing. The long term costs of not going outweigh any short term inconveniences of missing a fun party.

    Post # 8
    Member
    1104 posts
    Bumble bee

    Have you even been invited yet? It sounds like you’ve just heard on the grapevine that it’s happening on that day, but you haven’t been invited. Maybe yours is one of those families where it’s assumed that if mum tells you it’s on, that means you’re invited (lots of families like that). I’d probably try to get to the baptism itself but not worry about the party afterwards if you’ve got somewhere else to be (that you were actually invited to, with notice).

    Post # 9
    Member
    228 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I definitely agree with the bees that recommend going to the baptism and not the afterparty.  That way you can make your appearance for family’s sake and still get to have fun later on!  Good luck with your decision…sounds like your brother’s family might be a little difficult 🙁

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