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Man, that is basically saying "we'll go unless something better comes along". That would piss me right off! Knowing me, I would totally call them and say something like "if you're wanting to make other plans on that day, I'll go ahead and put you down as a no to make it easier for you" How rude!
I would call them a few days before your headcount is due and let them know that you really must know whether they'll be making an appearance.
You can always explain (politely!) that you need this information for the caterer so they understand that there's money involved.
I think you should leave it alone. They are planning on comming, but sometimes, life happens and things might get in the way of them comming. Depending on their job(s), if they can or cannot get a baby sitter, etc., they might not be able to make it. They are just being overly cautious and giving you a heads up. Try not to worry.
Yes, call them before your final count is due and cite the caterer and venue as reasons to know definitively.
i would definitely contact them on the RSVP deadline and say you need a firm answer one way or the other for the caterer- that's ridiculous.
To me it sounded like they were being overly cautious too. If you are worried about it I would just call them a few days ahead like a PP said and ask nicely if they think they are likely to attend.
the rsvp deadline was yesterday.. luckily i built in a couple of weeks of chasing time, so i'll just contact them nearer that date and get a definite yes or no from them.
Sigh. it's ncie to vent with peeps that are going through similar situations. Everyone else couldnt care less! lol
It's nice of them to let you know they might have an issue coming, but you should insist they give you a firm answer before HC is due. I had 3 people cancel the day before the wedding (and, literally didn't even cancel with me - someone just said "oh, the so-and-so's aren't coming). We were at a bar after our rehearsal dinner and I asked three casual aquaintences if they wanted to come instead. Maybe you can think of some people who wouldn't be offended with a last-minute invite?
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Hi bees!
So i am in the midst of collecting all my rsvp's, don't get me started about slow responses.
Not sure what is going on with FI's family, but basically they are taking a very lax approach to rsvp'ing. Only have a couple have sent their rsvp's in and most of all its been word of mouth responses. ANYWAY - one in particular that did rsvp (a yes) wrote on the back of their invite
"Looking forward to it. Will let you know nearer the date via your wedding website if our plans change and we can't make it"
Sooooo basically they rsvp'd yes but are still deliberating and will let us know. wth! should i call them to let them know they can't do that? i have to give my final HC soon and really don't want to pay for people who already are not planning on showing!! *vent*