How would you handle this situation? (free vacation but…)

posted 3 years ago in Travel
Post # 3
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5697 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I was going to say don’t look a gift horse in the mouth, but you have a point that it’s difficult to save up vacation as it is and to use it to go to a destination you aren’t thrilled about, that’s not fun.

If you REALLY are not looking forward to it and have no desire to go to Disneyland with everyone, then don’t. I would just tell them that while you so appreciate their generosity, you still have to use your time off, and you aren’t goig to come. 

Is that really the worst time for DL? Seems like it would be a decent time to go. Certainly not 80 degrees though.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Jw1724:  I think your only options are to go on the vacation your aunt and uncle want, or to graciously decline.  You don’t have to love the vacation idea, but you shouldn’t feel any bitterness towards your aunt and uncle for what is still a very generous gift offer.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Jw1724:  Ugh. Shared vacations are a special form of pain to me.

I would say something along the lines of, “We only get a small amount of vacation time per year, and we have other plans. We’d like to see you, but I don’t think an entire week is going to work.”

Post # 6
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6032 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

It’s only a two-hour drive to the beach. Go on the trip but tell them in advance you’d like to plan a beach day or two with whoever wants to join you.

Post # 7
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6048 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’d go.  It will still be warmer than NH.  There are heated pools at the Hotels and the beach, as PP noted, isn’t that far away. Plus it’s family and you’re not paying.  You can save the money from this year towards your vacation to a beach next year.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

sounds like hell to me.  And yeah vacations are never free even if you don’t pay for it with money casue vacation days are more valuable than money sometimes.

Plus are they also paying for food and tickets and everything or just flight and accomodation, casue tickets to disney are insane.

I’d try to compromise and do a few days at disney and then at the beach or keys the rest of the time.

Unfortunately, no matter where you go that time of year it’ll be buisy.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

If the other family members are more pro-beach too, I might keep quiet and secretly hope somebody else speaks up, haha. Especially since it’s your husband’s family, I would be very careful not to offend them.

If they end up doing Disney, graciously decline and say work won’t let you go that week or something and plan something with your husband later.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Jw1724:  If I were you I would politely bow out. There is no way I would waste my vacation time on a vacation that I wouldn’t enjoy, even if it was free.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Jw1724:  I would just be honest with them and tell them you don’t want to go to Disney. If it were me I’d say: “Thank you so much for the amazingly generous offer. After talking about it with DH we think we’re going to pass on this year’s trip. We think the kids will have a great time at Disney, but it’s somewhere we have a desire to visit. We just would not feel right about you spending that much money if we weren’t totally on board.” 

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

For me vacation time is more valuable than the money it costs to go on vacation, so I’m feeling you on this one.

It’s hard to be in this situation and not come off as ungrateful…but since people have already expressed that they don’t really want to go to Disney it sounds like your Aunt and Uncle are saying “come to Disney or don’t come”…right?

In that case, I’d just tell them that you really appreciate it but it’s not how you’d like to spend your vacation time this year.  

Tough situation since you already sort of accepted…

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Jw1724:  Well that’s good, I’m glad you MIL sees it the same way.

I totally agree with you, I wouldn’t want to go either regardless of who’s paying.  My vacation time is too valuable to me to thow it away just because a trip is free!

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