How would you handle this situation with my SIL?

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Royalton White Sands

I tend to be confrontational, so I would definitely say something to her about it… something along the lines of, “If you have a problem with the way I interact with my husband, you need to say it to my face.”

But… that’s just me. I wouldn’t have been extra lovey dovey out of spite, though. 

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@doubtingdebbieah:  I’d leave it to my husband to say something if he wants to. His sister, his decision. If he wants to say something, he can. If he wants to let it wash over, so be it, I’ll support him.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

It’s an interesting situation because you were friends with her before you got with her brother. In most situations, I’d ask your husband to handle this–it’s his sister. I guess it depends on how good your relationship is with her… if it’s not so good, I’d definitely have him say something to her either asking what is going on, or telling her that is unacceptable behavior. I try to stay out of confrontation with my husband’s sister because it will never go well for me. I let him deal with her because they’re family.

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@doubtingdebbieah:  Well, my SIL scares me slightly 🙂 And I’ve had several times where I’ve said something to her which has been taken the wrong way. So now, whenever I’m at their place, I figure this is DH’s brother-sister time. I’m just there to keep him company and mind the kids 🙂 .  So at his sister’s (or father’s or brother’s) place I just take his lead – it’s not helpful if I make waves in his family.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@doubtingdebbieah:  Her behavior would annoy and frustrate me too. She’s affecting you and its about you as well, you should be able to tell her something. However, she’s not someone you can cut out of your life without seeing her again. So in the best interest in not starting a family fued with you; you should talk to your husband about it and see what he says and let him talk with her. In the meanwhile, just be yourself and just be cordial with her. Don’t give her a reason to talk about you and if she does, at least it won’t be anything negative like you giving her the cold shoulder. People will realize her complaints about you and hubby being too lovey dovey, just sounds like jealousy on her end. Kill her with kindness and what else can she say? Lol

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper

@doubtingdebbieah:  You were right when you said she is entitled to her opinion. It doesn;t matter what you think of that opinion, it is hers and she is entitled to share it with who she wants to.

I always find these post funny because the OP is always trying to make themselves out as a great person and how horrible the other person is whilst at the same time usually doing the thing they are accusing the other person of. In this case talking about someone behind their back. By coming here and calling her princessy, rude and spoilt you are talking about her behind her back. You talk about her snotty behaviour then openly admit to being extra lovey dovey just to annoy her which is by definition snotty behaviour. 

 If you feel like something has changed in your relationship with her and want to continue to be friends with her then you need to talk to her about your relationship. Don’t just jump in and accuse her of stuff but talk about how you feel like she resents you etc etc.

If you do not wish to have a relationship with her like you used to then just be polite and try not to eavesdrop on other peoples private conversations.

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