- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
Bridesmaid craziness! I need advice Bee’s! Here’s the situation. Before I got engaged I never saw myself as having a MOH, just BM’s . Shortly before my engagement my sister N (same dad different moms) sent me a text saying “I better be your MOH!”. Fast-forward to the night I became engaged, I get a text from N saying the exact same thing as before so I text back and say “ Ok do you want to be my MOH?”. To be honest at that point I was so overwhelmed with being engaged, FMIL hounding me on the phone that I needed to pick my BM’s that night I felt kind of pressured, like I had to decided right then to have a MOH to help me with the madness.
(Side note. N has caused me some stress lately as getting the exact same tattoo (full back piece!), wanting to fight with me over my choice in BM dresses among other stupid stuff)
N and I were never close but we are sisters she has had my back when it has come down to drag out fist fights ( I wish I could say I was lying!) but I don’t know if I want her as my MOH now. I’m much closer to my older sister T (same mom different dad) and even though we spent 3 years not talking shes still my best friend. I keep thinking who will give their speech at the wedding and I would rather have T do it because well, she knows me better and we have the same mom (another long story).
So WTF do I do? Do I just keep N as my MOH? Do I tell N I decided to not do labels on the BM’s that it was causing outside drama? Thanks for letting me vent!