How would you let your guests know?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
3735 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Won’t their be signs posted as to the smoking mandate? If so, I wouldn’t bother putting anything in the invite. They are adults. They can smoke in their cars if they need to.

If you feel the need to let guests know about the no smoking and no drinking issue, use word of mouth. Anything else is just kind of weird.


Post # 3
851 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013


Tanleggedjuliet:  Create a wedding website and put all wedding information on this site.

You can then put the website address on the STD or put it on an insert that will go with the wedding invitation……

Post # 4
1209 posts
Bumble bee

I think noting ‘dry reception’ or ‘dry lunch’ to follow indicates there will be no alochol…

As for the smoking, I’m not sure how to elt people know…

Post # 8
1209 posts
Bumble bee

Tanleggedjuliet:  I’m a smoker and if there was no smoking on the grounds I’d manage. Or I’d slip off property after my meal and rejoin the party… I wouldn’t concern myself over the smokings habits of my guests… But that’s just me

Post # 9
143 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I would check, I know my city has e-cigs banned everywhere that cigs are. Just might wanna check on if they are ok with the ymca first, or it still might be a rule break!

Post # 11
2704 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015


I wouldn’t put it in the invite. I would spread it around word of mouth. Smokers can go a couple hours without a smoke, or dip off grounds for a quick butt if they can’t go that long.

Post # 12
10454 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

I think you might be better off if you don’t advertise that it will be a dry wedding.  If people don’t know, they are less likely to bring it with them, unless your cousins are the type to just always have it on them.

Post # 13
3344 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

Yeah, I agree that all this can go on a wedding website.  That’s the easiest way to tell everyone there will be no alcohol.

As for the smoking, you don’t need to provide gum or e-cigs as alternatives.  People can leave if they really need to smoke.  We had our wedding at a non-smoking venue and there were no signs posted.  But it’s pretty obvious nowadays that you can’t just light up wherever you want.  I assume people went outside to smoke.  Honestly, I never saw/smelled it and we didn’t need to give anyone advanced notice.

Post # 15
1634 posts
Bumble bee


Tanleggedjuliet:  I agree with AB Bride:  Maybe you dont need to mention the booze. Its a daytime event, and if its the rogue cousins you’re mostly worried about, if they dont know that there wont be liquor there, they won’t BYOB… or they’ll be less likely to. Also, your cousins behavior isnt a reflection on you, so if they get caught with alcohol on the property, they wont be allowed back, not necessarily you and your future husband.

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