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Oh god, laugh it off. You said yourself, the guy's a douche. (Though, you could've given your husband a couple days of nerves for his lack of supportive response. :D )
I'm sorry that happened. Certainly not a confidence boost!
That's why I never assume. I actually noticed a bump on my co-worker/friend like a month ago but never said anything. They had a rough run at it (multiple misscarriages) so this time around they decided to wait until 25 weeks before telling anyone besides family. She told me last week and I told her that I totally knew but didn't want to say anything for fear that she wasn't.
It's always best to keep one's mouth shut unless it's painfully obvious and even then, if the woman wanted you to know, I'm sure she'd probably bring it up.
Always turn a rude question back onto the rude asker. If ever confronted with this again say, "Why would you ask such a question?". This takes the focus off you and back on the person that completely lacks any manners whatsoever and is also an idiot. I am sorry that you have had to deal with this, some people just shouldn't speak.
That is insensitive and goes with the "think before you speak" that many people lack. I'm so sorry that happened.
I hate people who assume someone is pregnant whenever they see them. One of my coworkers wives was at the office a month or so ago with a pretty pronounced bump and I was still nervous to ask if she was pregnant.
This is why I never, ever ask unless I've been told or they're practically having contractions in front of me.
Did you ask him if he's gained any tact in the last several months?
at first i was mortified, but then you said it was a guy. guys are dumbasses about stuff like that. he might have really thought you were (no offense) and didn't mean to hurt your feelings, i mean unless you know him to be that kind of guy. personally, i would never ask that question to anyone unless they looked like they were ready to burst any minute.
don't be too hard on yourself. so what, you put on some weight after high school. go on a diet if you really feel that badly about it and can't let it go. but try not to obsess over it, no one is perfect including that douchebag.
ugghhh some people are just dumb and dont know to keep their mouths shut - im sorry he made you feel crappy
that sux, sorry that happened to you. i also never ask unless they say something about it - but then i dont need to ask!
Guys are totally clueless on so many levels. Plus most people assume once your married your going to have kids.
UGG so sorry that happened to you. You will have to start a new rule with hubby that if someone says something stupid he has to kick their ass.
If I had a nickel for every time....well, nevermind. ;)
I'll bet you look AWESOME!
I always liked the saying, "take it from the source". Unfortunately I have had that comment from a stranger while I was shopping and wearing a flowy sundress. I am busty so I look overall bigger than I am especially with sundresses. Some lady asked if I was pregnant, funny part is she weighed about 100 lbs. more than me... whatever!
Cut the guy some slack, seriously. More than likely he just had a momental lapse in judgment while trying to make small talk, and he was probably mortified once he had said it!
I know from experience..
Guys are stupid sometimes. Period.
You aren't the one who should feel dumb here.
A parent asked one of my fellow teachers when she was due last year at conferences, and this teacher is probably a size 8 or 10 and doesn't even look like she's pregnant. She was just wearing a loose, flowy blouse and he assumed she was pregnant.
Just because he asked doesn't mean you look bad.
@shellyjean: It could be worse. I'm not married yet, but I gained a lot of weight before the engagement. Then my DAD asked me if I was preggo. And told me not to take it the wrong way!!!! WTH DAD? >:/
Im sorry, I can imagaine how that moment couldnt not have been the best, but you said it hes a d bag anyways. When I was pregnant... Visibly pregnant like 8 months people would ask if I was or say something like when are you do and I would respond with what are you talking about... I thought it was hilarious. Not so funny now that Im not this happened to me a few months ago.. I was like nope.. then they responded with oh did you just have a baby... ugh ya a year ago thanks, youjust made me feel awesome!!
I gained a lot of weight when I moved away to live with FI for the first time. When I went back to visit friends and family I was asked -- no lie -- about eight times by eight different people if I was pregnant. It didn't bother me coz I knew I had gotten fat and I thought it was funny people never imagined I would let myself go so much and just assumed I was pregnant. I just said "No Im just fat" and brushed it off...it is stupid of them to jump to conclusions but what are you gonna do you know..shame on them I am sure they feel mortified when you say you arent.
Next time anyone asks you something like that say 'no, are you going bald?' Every guy will go home and immediately check their scalp in detail. Hopefully they will realize it sucks being on the receiving end of a blatant jerk-comment.
AHHH, I hate that also,
Sounds like you are not the only one it happens too. Once this big fat lady asked me that and i said no, why are you? She actually laughed cause she did not know what else to say.
Why do they ask that anyways. Do they want to say congrats afterwards? Not like they are such nice people.
@shellyjean: I may have slapped him. Definitely would have cried. How insensitive.
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You run into a mild acquaintance you haven't seen in a few years. While eyeing the mild belly weight you have gained since marriage, asks if you are pregnant. And you're totally not.
This happened to me today. Hubby was with me and didn't know what to say other than he was sorry. No words of encouragement, nothing. I'm surprised the dude (that said it, not hubby) actually had the balls to ask someone this without knowing. He's a d-bag anyway, but still.
Sorry for the vent. I'm just embarrassed, hurt, and angry.