Post # 16
Unless he was doing it all the time or letting it take priority over spending time with me, this would not be a big deal to me. It sounds like you knew he was open to smoking if the opportunity presented itself, and that’s what happened. He probably figured it’d be better not to tell you given that you seem to be very judgemental about it, he’d rather not upset you over something that isn’t a big deal.
Post # 17
For me this would be a deal breaker. The fact that you live together means he is actively sneaking around. Shouldn’t matter what you think of the smoking, sneaking around to do anything is a firm NO from me.
If I were in your shoes I would walk away, I personally think this issue is too huge. Do you want a husband sneaking around smoking weed when you’re married with kids? Will you be able to trust him entirely ever again?