How would you react if….?

posted 4 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
3171 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I wouldn’t be okay with my husband donating sperm because that would be his child running around. I am having fertility issues and have had at least 5 different women tell me they would surrogate for me and I would do the same for them. It woudn’t be my child.

Post # 4
2975 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Nona99:  No one has asked me yet, and I doubt anyone ever will. 


But in the off chance that I do get asked that…I will simply: 


EDIT: Also, I can’t speak for FH as I have no idea what he would think on the matter. You have given us a nice topic of conversation for tonight. 

Post # 5
284 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Definitely never had anyone ask! 

I think in any of the above situations, it’d be a conversation we’d have. It would probably really depend on the exact situation/how much we liked who was asking.

Is it weird that I think I’d have any easier time being a surrogate than giving up my eggs? I know it’s more, er, labor intensive but it seems like emotionally, it’d be strange having a kid that was part biologically me out there, and not being his/her parent. 

Post # 6
3874 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@tee22:  I was reading and planning to type almost the exact same thing. I feel the same way you do on all that. 

No one has ever asked. If anyone asked us, it would have to be a conversation and would definitely depend on the situation and people involved. 

Post # 7
868 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Nona99:  i have had someone ask me in a lighthearted way if i would ever think about donating eggs. this was a gay male who wants children in the future. so basically, it was, donating the egg and then carrying the baby. at first, it sounded great (this was all lighthearted) and then i realized, that would basically be my kid with another dad, yet i would not be able to raise them. i quickly realized how hard that would be!!! i don’t think i could do it.

no one has asked me to surrogate but i would be much more comfortable than that, in the way that it would still be a huge sacrifice, but i would probably do it for someone very very close to me who had exhausted all other options.  

Post # 9
4416 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Are these questions people typically ASK someone else to do? By that I mean, let’s say a dear friend of mine was having fertility issues and needed a surrogate. I can’t even begin to imagine a situation where she would then ASK me to do that for her. Either I would offer it up on my own, being aware of her situation, or I wouldn’t offer it. Haha I just can’t imagine the cojones you’d need to be like “hey friend, allow me to guilt you into bearing my children.” 😛

That being said, I think I’d be way more likely to be someone’s surrogate then to give up eggs/sperm. Like PP said, if my kids are going to be out there, I’ll be the one raising them!

Post # 10
2650 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’ve never had anybody ask! My assumption is that only people to whom I am very close and love very much would ask such a thing of me, and for those people I would not hesitate to say yes. The egg donation would definitely have to be discussed at length because of the possibility of passing down my debilitating depression, but otherwise I wouldn’t feel anything unpositive about it. For FI, I’d leave it up to him and support his decision 100%. 

His answer…depending on who they are, I might be convinced to donate my sperm. If I think they’d be terrible parents, no.

My obvious question to this…who does he know that would make such terrible parents but with whom he is close enough to be asked???


Post # 12
161 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Nona99:  When my parents were struggling to have children, my aunt volunteered to be a surrogate. They decided they would start the process after the new year. My mom found out she was pregnant with me the week of Christmas.

Post # 13
2930 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

I’d be honoured to do it:))))

Post # 14
953 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Nona99:  well I’m short with amazing hair and I never get asked..

Post # 15
4528 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I would be not do either, and neither would FH.we may not be able to have a biological child. If we can, it’s going to be with each other, and we’re keeping it, lol.

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