(Closed) how would you react to this >:/

posted 5 years ago in Beauty
  • poll: how would you feel
    Id be pretty livid, however would try to let it go : (15 votes)
    19 %
    It wouldn't have phased me a bit, its just a question : (63 votes)
    78 %
    I would call him out on it…there no reason for him to ask such a thing : (3 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    5968 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2018

    I would not let this bother me, it was a question, not a suggestion and more likely than not, a small confession of Dale’s current state of mind and nothing else.

    Post # 4
    Member
    1938 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    The happy news is that your FI said NO! He was probably just ranting and venting and didn’t mean anything by it

    Post # 6
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    2363 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

    OOF. Well, I would have to say me personally, I wouldn’t be livid… I’d be terribly confused and probably a little bit insulted, that he would think there would be any other answer than NO from my FI. I mean, I would start to wonder why in the world he would think there WOULD be a reason for my FI to cheat on me.

    But I feel like he was just venting/ranting and was probably upset, and he said a stupid dumb guy thing. Sometimes, I think guys can say things and not see the potential emotional harm to what they said, whereas we can (and DO.)

    Post # 7
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    508 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Yeah, I’m not sure why you’re upset about this.  It was just a question. Now, if he had been all “Ugh, I would if I were in your shoes!”, or something after your FI replied, then that would be another story.  But think this had less to do with what Dale thinks of you and your FI and more to do with what he’s thinking about his own relationship.

    Post # 8
    Member
    1086 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I’d call him out on it but I wouldn’t lose any sleep over it

    Post # 9
    Member
    7794 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I don’t see a problem for two reasons. First, it was guy talk, for your FI’s eyes only. Second, he didn’t suggest FI cheats, he merely asked if he would.

    Post # 10
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    2559 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Sounded like it was just a question in the midst of an emotional moment and that he was actually looking for confirmation that your FI wouldn’t cheat. I wouldn’t take it in a “furious” way, he definitely wasn’t suggesting that your FI cheat or trying to lead him astray, and your FI had such a great answer 🙂

    Post # 11
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    966 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    Yeah this has nothing to do with you or your relationship really. “Dale” was just upset and either trying to seek validation for either possible thoughts/actions of cheating (or something similar) or just simply venting. He would have asked any guy friend he was talking to that was/had been in a relationship. 

    Post # 12
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    927 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I wouldnt really lose any sleep over it. to most guys its a harmess question. now if your FI answered differently or the friend kept pushing it and was being an asshat well that would be a different story but they probably already forgot about it and it would do you some good to try to move past it too

    Post # 13
    Member
    6256 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I would think it was weird and a little irritating, but I’d probably just be glad the answer was no…and that the question was “Would you ever” instead of “Remember that time…”

    Post # 14
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    1832 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Don’t sweat the small stuff, men can be really dumb at times!

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