how would you take this email from your boss?

posted 3 years ago in Career
  • poll: Am I invited to lunch?
    Yes, she wouldn't single one person out for being safe : (47 votes)
    33 %
    No, you didn't go to work and she forgot to take you out of the email list : (77 votes)
    54 %
    No, you didn't go to work, so now she's rubbing it in your face you aren't invited : (19 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    @theEguarantee:  I don’t think she cares that you stayed home esp from her texts. Plus you guys are a group, she can’t just single you out when she takes the group out for lunch, regardless of the reason, that would be very unprofessional lol

    Post # 4
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    7098 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I would assume that I was not invited unless otherwise specified.

    Post # 5
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    6884 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!

    @theEguarantee:  Ugh. My boss sends convoluted messages to our entire group all the time and it drives me insane. Honestly, I would just respond and be like “Hey just wanted to double check whether or not I should plan on attending lunch since I did end up staying home. Thanks”  

    I’ve done it many times, never be ashamed to ask for clarification on something.

    Post # 6
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    3777 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I don’t think she was rubbing it in your face, I think she meant to include you, but I would not attend since you didn’t go in that day.

    Post # 7
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    3265 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @FutureDrAtkins:  +1

    I probably wouldn’t feel very comfortable going anyway since I hadn’t gone in.

    Post # 8
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    24 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @theEguarantee:  she writes “I wanted to thank those of you who were able to come in on yesterday.”  I read it as the luncheon is for the people who went to the office.  

    I do not think she purposefully wants to rub the luncheon in your face, based up on the texts you exchanged with her the day before. She probably forgot to take you off of the e-mail list.

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

    Everywhere I’ve worked that had a small “team” has ALWAYS invited the whole team for outings like that, never everyone minus one. Basically she seems to be apologizing to everyone that she herself was gone, and you don’t factor into it much. She wants to show her appreciation for her awesome team.

    Post # 10
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    774 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Hm, I also don’t think she did it to rub it in your face. Heck, she didn’t go in either! I think if it was me, I would send her an e-mail or stop by her office and say “Hey, thank you for including me in that invitation but I wouldn’t feel right letting you take me to lunch since I stayed home.” She’ll most likely say nonsense and that you should come with the group. Either way, you’re covered and you’re not being rude in any way. 

    Post # 12
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    3016 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

    I think she was too lazy to delete you.

    Regardless of what her intention was, I personally would solve the dilemma by not going to the lunch.

    Post # 13
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    2851 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I highly doubt she sent that to rub it in your face. It was probably an error on her part to include you in the email. Reply to her email and say what @FutureDrAtkins: said.

    Post # 14
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    3344 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

    I honestly would probably not respond to the e-mail and I would not plan on attending the lunch.  If my boss then came to me in person and asked if I was attending (or why I didn’t if it already happened), then I would explain that I had a lot of work to do that day and had stayed to work through lunch.  That seems like the least dramatic/most responsible thing to do.  I don’t see how she could possibly be upset with you about that.  It gets you out of the awkwardness of attending the lunch and having to talk to her about whether or not you were supposed to be included.  Plus, if she was trying to be snotty or vindictive about it, she will feel like a shmuck because you didn’t fall for it AND you’re a hard worker.

    Post # 16
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    2725 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I vote that it doesn’t really matter either way, because I wouldn’t feel right going to a lunch to say thank you for something I didn’t do. 

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