Post # 1
Ok so. Tuesday we had an ice event caused by winter storm leon. This caused our roads to be covered with a sheet of sleet and ice which remained frozen tuesday night and almost all day wednesday. Schools are still closed today.
SO Tuesday night, my group at work gets a text from our boss saying to report to work, but the state officials are saying it will be unsafe so plan your routes accordingly. My first reaction was- yeah right! There’s no way i’m driving on iced over roads. Our tires & infrastructures are not made for frozen roads.
So I call my boss wednesday morning to tell her I am uncomfortable driving in these conditions & will watch for the ice to melt. She says thats fine. I get a text from her at 11:15am asking me how things were looking where I lived, told her still had my driveway covered in ice & was hearing ab people slipping on the roads nearby. So ab 10min later tells me she was sending everyone home at noon & that she would see me in the morning.
I get here this morning, find out everyone risked the roads & came in- except me & our boss. Every other group in our building was told to NOT come in. The smart decision. But today, our boss sends this email to our group. I recieved the email too, but im wondering if it was just bc i was in the email group she sent it to & she just didnt delete me from the recipient list.
Question is- am I actually invited since the whole rest of the group is going & I got the email? Or am i the only one out of the group not invited because I took my safety into my own hands, and she sent me the email on purpose to rub it in my face or on accident? Heres the content of the email:
I wanted to thank those of you who were able to come in on yesterday. I really appreciate it.
If you would amongst yourselves, please select a day next week for me to take you all out to lunch to show my appreciation.
I was not here yesterday, but I received this email. I dont know what the heck to think.
Post # 3
@theEguarantee: I don’t think she cares that you stayed home esp from her texts. Plus you guys are a group, she can’t just single you out when she takes the group out for lunch, regardless of the reason, that would be very unprofessional lol
Post # 4
I would assume that I was not invited unless otherwise specified.
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!
@theEguarantee: Ugh. My boss sends convoluted messages to our entire group all the time and it drives me insane. Honestly, I would just respond and be like “Hey just wanted to double check whether or not I should plan on attending lunch since I did end up staying home. Thanks”
I’ve done it many times, never be ashamed to ask for clarification on something.
Post # 6
I don’t think she was rubbing it in your face, I think she meant to include you, but I would not attend since you didn’t go in that day.
Post # 7
I probably wouldn’t feel very comfortable going anyway since I hadn’t gone in.
Post # 8
@theEguarantee: she writes “I wanted to thank those of you who were able to come in on yesterday.” I read it as the luncheon is for the people who went to the office.
I do not think she purposefully wants to rub the luncheon in your face, based up on the texts you exchanged with her the day before. She probably forgot to take you off of the e-mail list.
Post # 9
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
Everywhere I’ve worked that had a small “team” has ALWAYS invited the whole team for outings like that, never everyone minus one. Basically she seems to be apologizing to everyone that she herself was gone, and you don’t factor into it much. She wants to show her appreciation for her awesome team.
Post # 10
Hm, I also don’t think she did it to rub it in your face. Heck, she didn’t go in either! I think if it was me, I would send her an e-mail or stop by her office and say “Hey, thank you for including me in that invitation but I wouldn’t feel right letting you take me to lunch since I stayed home.” She’ll most likely say nonsense and that you should come with the group. Either way, you’re covered and you’re not being rude in any way.
Post # 11
i do need to ask for clarification. except that shes vindictive & this is her first time as a supervisor, and i really dont think she would be nice if i asked. The rest of the group wants me to send the email telling her the day we’re available lol but i dont wanna be messy, so i wont be doing that!
Post # 12
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
I think she was too lazy to delete you.
Regardless of what her intention was, I personally would solve the dilemma by not going to the lunch.
Post # 13
I highly doubt she sent that to rub it in your face. It was probably an error on her part to include you in the email. Reply to her email and say what @FutureDrAtkins: said.
Post # 14
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
I honestly would probably not respond to the e-mail and I would not plan on attending the lunch. If my boss then came to me in person and asked if I was attending (or why I didn’t if it already happened), then I would explain that I had a lot of work to do that day and had stayed to work through lunch. That seems like the least dramatic/most responsible thing to do. I don’t see how she could possibly be upset with you about that. It gets you out of the awkwardness of attending the lunch and having to talk to her about whether or not you were supposed to be included. Plus, if she was trying to be snotty or vindictive about it, she will feel like a shmuck because you didn’t fall for it AND you’re a hard worker.
Post # 15
I replied with @FutureDrAtkins: advice. So we shall see what she replies. I honestly have no clue how to interpret the email, so hopefully this is a simple, respectful, way to get clarification. Thanks a ton ladies
Post # 16
I vote that it doesn’t really matter either way, because I wouldn’t feel right going to a lunch to say thank you for something I didn’t do.