How would you word this invite?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
918 posts
Busy bee

How about something along the lines of:


Jane Elizabeth Doe


Janet Susanna Downs

request the pleasure of your company

at the celebration of their marriage

Saturday, the sixteenth of November

two thousand thirteen

at half past three in the afternoon


Dinner and dancing to follow


The fact that you will already be legally married doesn’t change the fact that this event will be a celebration of your marriage, and “dinner and dancing to follow” suggests that there will be a ceremony first.




Post # 4
918 posts
Busy bee


Jane Elizabeth Doe


Janet Susanna Downs

invite you to share in their joy

as they exchange wedding vows

and begin their new life together

Post # 5
10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Etiquette Snob here … lol

Ya people “in general” get their panties in a twist about Couples that marry quietly with a JOP and then pass off a Big Celebration “Wedding” as the one and only. It is the one and only part that makes people upset…

Your case is a bit different (but yet somewhat the same).  Clearly if you live in a State that hasn’t recognized Same Sex Marriage, then folks will naturally figure out that you cannot “marry there” per se.

So ya, off you go to the JOP elsewhere, and come back home to either a Vow Renewal… or a “Wedding Celebration” / Reception Party after the fact

Mr TTR & I eloped, we came home and threw a “Back Home Reception Party” as we didn’t have anything to do with a repeat of Vows etc.

Anyhow… I agree with @JulietFoxtrot: in your situation I think the phrase “Wedding Celebration” is perfect, and then you can make it whatever you want…

Be that saying your Vows to one another… or just a Party to Celebrate the Marriage.

If you decide to skip the Vows, then just eliminate the Dinner & Dancing to follow line, and you are good to go.

Ie – 8 o’clock in the evening – Chestwick Community Hall

In which case, the time will imply that there won’t be Dinner served.

Hope this helps,

NOTE – In our own case, as we ONLY held a Party, our Invites were way more casual (style etc) … and not big on the formal wording whatsoever.  So similar to any other Party Invitation…. 8 PM to 1 AM – Chestwick Community Hall. 

The backside included info about how to RSVP – Location Map – and even what was planned (Cocktails & Hors d’ouevres – Cake & Champagne – DJ & Dancing).  Clearly a party and not a “Wedding” Ceremony.

As they say, the Invite sets the tone.


Post # 7
2649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@lovelyMsValentine:  It sounds to me like you’re eloping and hosting a celebratory reception upon your return. Or a party in celebration of your recent marriage. Calling it a wedding would be both incorrect and confusing since no wedding is taking place at your party. 

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