Post # 1
Working on our table seating chart and we have a 4 & 5 year old. Are they old enough to be at a different table than their parents (It works out perfectly for US). If we put the tables right next to each other? Do you think that would be ok?
Post # 3
By different table, do you mean a kid’s table? If so, then I’d just ask the parents, since they’d know best. At that age, it can vary. I was totally fine at my own table at that age, but I used to babysit kids that age who could not be at their own table. Just not ready yet.
Post # 4
I don’t think that is old enough. I probably wouldn’t split kids from their parents, I have a 10 year old who extremely shy even round our extended family and she would cry if she had to sit seperate from us. Definately talk to their parents first.
Post # 5
I would ask the family, I think it can really vary & it depends on the child’s personality.
Post # 6
Yes, it would mainly be a kids table (although there would be a couple people in their early 20’s). All the younger ones (not the 20-year olds) are all cousins so they know each other and play and get along… so no one shy there! After about the first 5 minutes they met me (they are FI’s side), they were jumping on me and playing around.
Post # 7
I was a pretty shy kid and would have been pretty terrified if I was sat at a kids table with a bunch of other children I didn’t know!
However, if it’s a bunch of children that are all fairly close (ie. My littlest sister gets along great with all of her cousins, so I wouldn’t have a problem sitting them all together at their own seperate table), you might be able to make it work.
Still, 4 and 5 are pretty young to be expected to be on their best behavior without an adult keeping watch.
ETA- Monkey, we replied at the same time! Haha In that case, I would still ask the parents to see how they feel about it. However, I would probably just seat them with their parents if I were in your shoes.
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Too young- kids still need help from their parents at that age (parents will notice the “potty dance” sign well before strangers will). Also- I don’t think the parents would be happy about it
Post # 9
@Monkey786: Hmmm, even though they all get along, I’d find it off-putting as a 20-year-old to be at a table with 4 and 5-year-olds, especially if they’re not their own children and regardless if they all know each other and get along. Just saying. If there’s adults at the table, why not just sit the kids with their parents.
Post # 10
That would make me a bit nervous, honestly. How well do you know the parents of these children? If you’re very close with them, I would call them and ask them before I finalized your seating plan along those lines.
In all honestly, the parents I know would probably split up, with one of the parents sitting with one child and the other parent sitting with the other child at the other table, unless there are other adults at the table with the children — adults with whom the children would be comfortable and whom the parents would entrust to oversee their kids.
Post # 11
I would hate to be in my early 20s and sitting with 4 and 5 year olds. It makes it seem like they’re babysitters. Just seat the little ones with their parents.
Post # 12
IMO, children need to be seated beside their parents (especially at your wedding reception!) until they’re 10 or older. 4 & 5 is WAAAAAAY too young.
I also agree with PP that seating 20-something guests at a (primarily) kids’ table is just mean. As a 22-year-old who really doesn’t like kids all that much, it would be torture.
Post # 13
ok, so NO seems like the general consensus. time to rearrange!!! gaaaaaaaaaah.
thanks for the help 😉
Post # 14
Fi was against a kid table so we’re seating families and kids together. I think a 4 year old is too young to sit away from their parents at a wedding. Maybe ab-day party, but not a wedding. I would have the kids table for kids 8 and up if you are doing that route.