How young is too young for kids to be babysat at reception in another room

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
1302 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@ShannonFla:  She is being totally unreasonable. So her youngest is 8 months old, correct? That is definintely old enough to stay in a room with a baysitter for a few hours. Plus she can go check on him during the reception if she chooses – isn’t that the point? I think you are being very accomodating by having that option for the children. You could be like me and say no kids at all!!

Post # 5
2136 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

It depends on the qualifications of the babysitter, I believe. BUT, he’ll be almost two, she is out of her mind if she thinks they are too young.

Post # 6
7025 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@ShannonFla:  I’m a mother, and I say the lower limit is around 12 months, depending on the child. A 19 month can certainly be babysat. For a 3 1/2 year old it shouldn’t even be a question – she’ll be going to pre-school soon anyway. And of course, many kids go into day care.

But, I would feel kind of nervous if I couldn’t check on them at all. At 40 feet away, I’d leave them no problem. 500 feet away I’d be a litttle more nervous. Certainly time beforehand seeing them in the babysitting environment (or partner doing that since if I was MOH I’d be busy) would reassure me.

I would tell her that young kids at the reception are not an option, and if she isn’t happy with those arrangements she can leave them with her partner’s parents.

Post # 7
320 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

i would say 1 and half years old and older to be baby sat. if pple are being funny maybe 2 years.x

Post # 8
76 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I go along the lines of “I’ve made the offer for you, if you don’t like it, you babysit your kids, just keep them out of the reception room”! 

I have a 6 month old and am still a little cagey about “just anyone” looking after her, but I am getting better!  But, if I am invited out, I either get a sitter (a family member) or I don’t go!  Before having a baby, I would’ve said “no kids” flat out, but am a bit more understanding now. 

You have made very effort to be accomadating to her, so she needs to be a bit accomadating to you.  Let your kids be looked after by someone who is MORE qualified than their mother to do so, look after your own kids in an area prescribed by me (and for their own safety), or don’t come!  You might notice that “be a drama queen” is NOT an option here!

18 months is definately old enough to be babysat for a short time while (even the most paranoid) Mum is nearby.  It’s normally the Mum’s (not the kids) that get worried about these things.  It’ll be a good learning experience for her.

Post # 9
31 posts

if you are financially (and otherwise) highly dependend on someone else, have no prospects for a long term job then you are definitely too young or a baby because you’re a child yourself. 

Post # 11
333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

First let me say that I think this is a fantastic idea, but you might want to keep this in mind so it doesn’t backfire: 

I don’t have kids, but I’ve read a lot of posts on here where parents didn’t know ahead of time that they needed to leave their kids with a sitter until it was too late to meet them, and they left the party because they weren’t comfortable leaving their child with a stranger….which is somewhat understandable to me. So perhaps you should find a way to let parents know who the babysitters will be or something like that. It’s possible the parents will be more comfortable if their kids are being watched somewhere closer and not in a hotel room so they can stop in and check on them. Perhaps you could have a special area for kids, and this chick could bring her own babysitter to help out so she’s comfortable. 

That said….it is totally your call if you decide not to have children at your wedding. A guest CANNOT tell you…this is unacceptable to me and therefore my children will be staying with me. If her kids aren’t invited and she won’t leave them, then she’ll have to make a tough decision on whether or not she wants to step down from the wedding. I know that’s harsh, but that’s how it works. If she isn’t comfortable with your choices, she can choose to leave her child at home with her own sitter for the night/weekend! 

Post # 12
264 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@ShannonFla:  When you have a kid that child means the whole world to you and a lot of mothers, including myself, would feel very uncomfotable leaving their child with a total stranger. It seems that you do not want kids at your wedding, your wedding, your choice, but then i dont see the point in them being there at all. So you will have to let them know that they will need to find baby sitters.

Post # 13
7282 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@ShannonFla:  You don’t get to decide this. It is the parents decision entirely. only they can deem what is an appropriate age for their child to be babysat.

Are you sure this is about your concerns for the safety of the kids or are you just not wanting kids at the wedding? Because if it really is the safety of the kids then again you don’t get to decide this, that is the parents decision. If they have told you that it is fine then you have to accept that. Since her parents will also be guests there will be numerous people to watch the kids.

If it is about not having kids at the wedding then you need to stop feeding her the BS story about safety and be honest with her.

Post # 14
325 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

My kids are 6 and 9 and there is no way i would leave them to be babysat by a stranger. i would however ffind my own childcare if i knew ahead of time it was a childfree wedding. 

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