Post # 1
for the flower girl and ring bearer. We’re in a situation where it has to be all or nothing. There are 4 kids in the family.
fh’s nephew – 8 at wedding (feb bday)
my half brother – 6 at wedding (aug bday)
fh’s neice – 25 months at wedding
my nephew – 23 months at wedding
we either involve them all (ushers and ring bearer and flower girl) or none of them and I really don’t know what to do. I know my sister (MOH) would really like my nephew to be in the wedding and I”m sure FH’s Future Sister-In-Law would like her daughter in the pretty white dress as the flower girl but are they too little? The ceremony won’t be long…
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Our nephew made it down the aisle on his own at 19 months. His Momma was my Maid/Matron of Honor, so back-up plan #1 was to walk with/be carried by her. Back-up plan #2 was to say eff it and just not have him walk. As long as you are flexible with your plan and the kids are generally easy going, you could make it work if you wanted to.
Post # 4
My niece was 18 months, and was adorable! We had her hold a small pomander instead of toss petals, and she held her mom’s hand down the aisle. It was adorable and worked great!
Post # 5
i’ve seen mother’s carry the toddle flowergirls down the ailse.
at 23 months, i assume she walks.
let her try it a few times and see if she even wants to make the walk.
why do the 23 and 24 month olds have to be in the wedding party? i think they are a bit young.
usually they say 3-7 is the perfect age.
Post # 6
As long as they can walk, then it’s probably fine. Obviously older kids are going to understand directions better though. But the older kids of the 4 you listed could help out the younger ones.
Post # 7
it really depends on the child, but for me under 3 is too young. you never know how kids that little will react when it’s time to walk down the aisle with so many people watching them- they may want someone to walk with them or flat out refuse to walk at all. and you have to make sure the child is as happy as possible- they’ve napped, they’ve eaten, they’ve gone to the restroom (or have a clean diaper), etc. i really didn’t want to risk having a screaming/crying child walking down the aisle before me, so we decided to go with a flower girl who was older. as long as you’re willing to go with the flow, it’ll work.
Post # 8
curious to get a few more opinions.
@ajillity81: just family drama, my sister (MOH) can be a bit of a drama queen and if my bro and FH’s newphew are in the wedding and her son isn’t it will be a problem. She’ll sulk.
Post # 9
I agree with @lovekiss as long as you are flexible, I think you can make it work. FI’s cousin has a 2 yo flower girl pulled in a little red wagon by her older brother who was the ring bearer. It was def an awwww kind of moment and the little flower girl stole the show her whole way up the aisle.
Post # 10
I had a back up plan for the younger ones. My two ring bearers doubled as escorts for their grandmother, which was my mother.. and my mom LOVED it, the boys behaved perfectly and all went well. I had them seated right after they handed off the rings and it worked out perfectly.
Make sure mom’s or caregivers have a bag of treats for the ceremony and you should be good to go.
Post # 11
@MsGinkgo: My 3 year old Flower Girl was WAY better behaved than my 9 year old RB!
I would have all of them! The big ones can help the little ones!
Post # 12
I think it also depends on how shy they are. I’ve worked in a preschool and there are 4 year olds I wouldn’t send down an aisle but there are 2 year old I wouldn’t hesitate to send down the aisle. It’s really much more than just “Can they walk or not?” Generally speaking, I think 2s can be tricky and unpredictable. I would go with at least a 3+ year old, especially if they are to walk alone or with other little kids.
Post # 13
I voted 4+, and I think 2 year olds are definitely too young. When my daughter was 3 she wouldn’t walk down the aisle alone like she was meant to.
I would have no children in the wedding party, but dress them all up and have some special photos with them (bride + groom + 4 kids; bride + 4 kids; etc)