how young is too young..

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: how young is too young
    should be at least 2 : (10 votes)
    33 %
    3+ : (11 votes)
    37 %
    4+ : (7 votes)
    23 %
    5+ : (2 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    7281 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    Our nephew made it down the aisle on his own at 19 months. His Momma was my MOH, so back-up plan #1 was to walk with/be carried by her. Back-up plan #2 was to say eff it and just not have him walk. As long as you are flexible with your plan and the kids are generally easy going, you could make it work if you wanted to.

    Post # 4
    Member
    10384 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    My niece was 18 months, and was adorable! We had her hold a small pomander instead of toss petals, and she held her mom’s hand down the aisle. It was adorable and worked great!

    Post # 5
    Member
    6273 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    i’ve seen mother’s carry the toddle flowergirls down the ailse.

    at 23 months, i assume she walks. 

    let her try it a few times and see if she even wants to make the walk.

    why do the 23 and 24 month olds have to be in the wedding party?  i think they are a bit young.

    usually they say 3-7 is the perfect age.

     

    Post # 6
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    10748 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    As long as they can walk, then it’s probably fine. Obviously older kids are going to understand directions better though. But the older kids of the 4 you listed could help out the younger ones. 

    Post # 7
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    2913 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    it really depends on the child, but for me under 3 is too young. you never know how kids that little will react when it’s time to walk down the aisle with so many people watching them- they may want someone to walk with them or flat out refuse to walk at all. and you have to make sure the child is as happy as possible- they’ve napped, they’ve eaten, they’ve gone to the restroom (or have a clean diaper), etc. i really didn’t want to risk having a screaming/crying child walking down the aisle before me, so we decided to go with a flower girl who was older. as long as you’re willing to go with the flow, it’ll work.

    Post # 9
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    1721 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I agree with @lovekiss as long as you are flexible, I think you can make it work.  FI’s cousin has a 2 yo flower girl pulled in a little red wagon by her older brother who was the ring bearer.  It was def an awwww kind of moment and the little flower girl stole the show her whole way up the aisle.

    Post # 10
    Member
    223 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I had a back up plan for the younger ones. My two ring bearers doubled as escorts for their grandmother, which was my mother.. and my mom LOVED it, the boys behaved perfectly and all went well. I had them seated right after they handed off the rings and it worked out perfectly. 

    Make sure mom’s or caregivers have a bag of treats for the ceremony and you should be good to go. 

    Post # 11
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    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @MsGinkgo:  My 3 year old FG was WAY better behaved than my 9 year old RB!

    I would have all of them! The big ones can help the little ones!

    Post # 12
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    3633 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I think it also depends on how shy they are. I’ve worked in a preschool and there are 4 year olds I wouldn’t send down an aisle but there are 2 year old I wouldn’t hesitate to send down the aisle. It’s really much more than just “Can they walk or not?” Generally speaking, I think 2s can be tricky and unpredictable. I would go with at least a 3+ year old, especially if they are to walk alone or with other little kids.

    Post # 13
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    7203 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I voted 4+, and I think 2 year olds are definitely too young. When my daughter was 3 she wouldn’t walk down the aisle alone like she was meant to.

    I would have no children in the wedding party, but dress them all up and have some special photos with them (bride + groom + 4 kids; bride + 4 kids; etc)

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