(Closed) How'd you pay for your wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Money
  • poll: well?
    Credit! : (10 votes)
    5 %
    Parents! : (79 votes)
    37 %
    Saved up! : (126 votes)
    59 %
  • Post # 3
    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    We’re doing a mix of savings and parents. Fiance and I won’t deal in credit, and we’ve both been saving since our first jobs as teenagers (not for a wedding, just in general), so we can afford to pay for the wedding up front. Our parents are insisting on contributing some finances towards it all though, so we’ll probably pay about two thirds of the expenses, and our parents will pay one sixth each (roughly).

    Post # 4
    150 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    My wedding was a little of both Parents and Saved Up. I’ll pick Parents because I think the total was moreso contributed by them, overall.

    However, my wedding was somewhere under $5,000 total. 

    Post # 5
    3771 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    Saved up!  It helps that I lived with my parents for about 4 years post college with a good job, plus the house Fiance and I rent right now is pretty cheap in an area with a lower cost of living than the big city.  Fiance has been setting aside a portion of each paycheck to go into a joint account we have specifically for the wedding.

    Post # 6
    127 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    you need a spot for “other” because mine was none of your 3 choices


    Post # 7
    172 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I chose “saved up” but really it was none of these options. Fi and I are both students. He works full time I only work part time (could work more but chose to take some time for wedding planning and school). Our parents won’t be helping us so we are doing this on our own. We got engaged in June ’12 and getting maried Jan ’13. We weren’t really able to save with rent and car payments and school and such so we have been using our pay checks as they come. Luckily I have discovered that the big purchases all come in incriments venue 50% up front-check, dress 75% up front-check. Although both worked with us so we could do those in installments as well! The little things are the things I’m worried about; suit, shoes, his ring, decorations, etc. It was scary and it still is but we work well together as a team. I get all the numbers together for him to go over then he gives me what I need. I’m just so excited I have all the major things down finally. 

    Post # 8
    4014 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Just us. We’ve just been using general savings and setting aside what we need per month to add to the wedding fund. It’s really helped us learn to save better together and work together!

    Post # 9
    1659 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Our total for ceremony/reception came to about $15k.  My dad paid for probably $10k, my mom $3k, and the rest was details that we took care of so I voted parents.

    Post # 10
    933 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think this should be a multiple choice survey b.c it’s a combination for most people.

    Post # 11
    4439 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    From the outset our parents told us how much they would give us, and we saved the rest!  Everytime I got “extra” money I saved it – Christmas bonuses, gifts, etc. and we stopped going out to eat and watching our spending more closely.  It kinda makes for a sucky year leading up to the big day, LOL!

    Post # 12
    588 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    We buy once we have saved enough. We use our credit card to gain the points and miles but pay it off immediately. So far we have zero debt from the wedding and our parents haven’t contributed anything. We have spent a lot already too.

    Post # 13
    440 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Bit of all 3

    Post # 14
    12877 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Mostly parents, but a lot of saving, too.  I live in a very expensive area, so everything adds up quick.

    Post # 15
    2295 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    A mix of parents and my own savings. My parents (mom & dad are divorced) each gave me a set amount they would contribute and I could do with it as I wished, although the expectation was that it would go to the wedding and I wouldn’t pocket it and elope. It was a generous amount, but low enough that I needed to use it all on the wedding and then contribute some of my own savings. My dad did want to see a general budget before he decided how much he would give. That was interesting.

    Fiance had some angst over how much the wedding would cost (even though it is below “average” and totally reasonable IMO), so I haven’t asked him to contribute. I don’t really want second guessing on what things are costing – I’m frugal and wise with how I allocate money, and he knows that. All of our money will be combined once we are married anyway, so him socking more into savings now is just as good as him giving me some for the wedding and me taking less out of savings. It’s pretty much just semantics and it is less stress for me to feel like it isn’t “his” money that I’m spending.

    He bought my rings, and his mom is paying for about 1/3rd of the rehearsal dinner.

    Post # 16
    157 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Just us.  My wedding is close to 40K but my fiance and I have both been dating for 3 years and started our careers together and saved up for our big day.

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