Post # 1
So many conversations / weird things have happened that make me think a proposal is coming this holiday season. My mom knows nothing because my dad would never tell her, but she said he’s acting weird! I told my dad, “do you think __________ is weird?” referring to the things SO has said. He said, “Would you stop analyzing and just be surprised when it happens?!”
Of course there is a reasonable, rational, person inside of me who knows it won’t happen this season. He gave me a timeline of 9 months. Then again, he’s been known to throw me off with any kind of surprise. I am honestly split 50/50 on the possibility of it happening. I keep going back and forth. Part of me says yes, part of me says no way idiot don’t get your hopes up!!
I actually canceled our NYE plans to stay in because I am TERRIFIED of him not asking and being distraught and ruining our NYE. Especially because he has explicitly said it will be at the end of summer.
Problem is…how do I know the difference between wishful thinking and legit clues that it could be happening? How do I know t he difference between him being frank with me and him trying to throw me off? Most importantly, how do I stop thinking about it so I’m not totally let down??
Post # 3
Sorry, Fiance told me the morning that he was going to propose. I’m not big on surprises, and neither is he :).
I wouldn’t keep cancelling plans, though, or else he won’t be able to propose! Just keep a calm center and try not to build yourself up too much for a specific day. At least you know it’s going to happen within a time frame. Try to hold onto that knowledge and hopefully staying calm will be easier.
Post # 4
I check the mail every day, and I noticed one of those bill type letters from Jared’s. I knew we didn’t have a Jared’s card, so I figured he must be getting ready! I actually hate that I checked the mail that day. I WAS however surprised when it happened – even though I knew it was coming, I didn’t know when it would.
Post # 5
Found the ring 3 months earlier.
He asked me out very formally for the night he finally did ask.
Post # 6
I knew it was coming based on a few things. First off, we were very open about the whole thing. I had given input into the ring selection and knew he was in the process of buying a ring. Secondly, he was at the end of this time table. He spoke with my parents at the end of May and originally said he was going to ask by the end of September. In September he asked for another month, so… yeah. He didn’t ask till 3 weeks into October. And lastly, I was surprised on the day off, because he had taken off from work. But as soon as he came back and said get ready we’re going out, I knew it was the day!
Post # 7
We picked the ring out together, but he held onto it for 6 months. 🙂
BUT, he told me 2 months into those 6 that he “had figured out the perfect way to propose.” And I said “okay will it be in the next 6 months?” And he said yep, I can tell you it will be before our next anniversary. 🙂
I waited 4 more months and ta-da! It was lovely. I was surprised at how sweet the moment was and how much thought he had put into it, and it helped me to know a sort of timeline so I didn’t get all panicky and waiting-crazed. I would stop cancelling plans and let it run its course. You have an idea (timeframe) and there’s no reason to ruin all the holidays in between. :/
Post # 8
I know a proposal is coming, but I have no idea when or how!
Post # 9
I always knew he was going to propose, question was when? I never knew he had the ring, he still won’t tell me how long he had the ring before he proposed. How he proposed was a complete surprise and so thoughtful.
Don’t worry about being available. When the proposal comes your attendance will be mandatory and your SO will make sure you are there. I honestly never thought about how the proposal would happen, so I have no advice for how to stop thinking about it. But if a proposal is ALL you can think about try to stay busy.
Post # 10
We had discussed marriage and being serious before so I knew it was coming.
Then he said he was going to take me to Disneyland for Christmas, and I was like “ding!”. Though he said after that he didn’t think about proposing at Disneyland until after we planned on going. Silly boys. Then on the Disneyland day he was dressed way nicer than he normally would for a day walking around in the sun and then he spent like 15 minutes in the bathroom before, lol! Said he was getting the ring unhooked from where he’d kept it since the box was too big to carry.
All in all I had about 100 hints so if I’d been surprised he would have good reason to question my sanity. I was completely surprised by the engagement party he sprung on me right after we left the park! I looked horrible after sweating and getting wet in Disneyland all day but it was a super fun party and nice to not have to figure out how to tell all of my family.
Post # 11
My Darling Husband bought the ring hours before he proposed. only kept in his pocket for an afternoon. we hadn’t discussed it at all, made no plans, haden’t reviewed any rings, choices, budgets, timelines etc. Nothing! He just wanted to ask me, bought a ring, and did it.
Post # 12
Okay, he is officially torturing me now! I know two gifts he got me and some my parents got me. I said to him “I am kind of bummed I know my gifts…no surprises this Christmas.” and he said “Blah, I’m sorry baby!” and I said “Ehh who needs surprises anyway?” and he said “You do! :)” Umm I know that doesn’t sound like much to some, but for him to say that is major!
I told my mom and she’s like “If you get engaged, I will be soooo happy!!!” She’s an enabler, damnit!
Post # 13
I knew that my hubby and I would be getting married, but I was completely surprised when he popped the question! I had thought it was going to take him much longer to be ready to ask me then it actually took. 🙂
Post # 14
I showed SO the rings that I like and he secretly bought one of them. I stumbled across it right after he bought it, but that was about 1 month ago (maybe more?). He told me it would happen by the 1st of March so I know it comng sometime soonish but no idea how 🙂
Post # 15
I knew he had the ring, but I had no clue the day. I had no clue until he got down on one knee. Seriously. He wasn’t acting strange. I didn’t even go out that night thinking it would happen. I was in my Pen’s jersey and a pair of jeans with no makeup and my hair under a hat! If I knew, I would have been picture ready. lol
I did send him a wish list of what I wanted, but after that I had no clue.
People say you can’t be surprised if you know about the ring. I call BS because I was shocked. I cried harder than I ever have in my life. I screamed. I jumped into his arms. I cried some more. I just couldn’t believe it was happening.