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Ok, so a few years back I received a wedding invitation and in it was a a little card (the size of a response card) listing the 3 or 4 stores that the B&G had registered at. Is this the right way to do it? Or should you wait until your guests ask you where your registered at? I do not think listing it on our website would work b/c hardly anyone visits it.

I think that is the right thing to do. Put it in your invitation and bridal shower invitation. I am having them both listed on there and it is on our Theknot.com website we created.

No don't put them in the invitation, that's considered tacky and gift grabby, lol.  The registry information can go on the shower invitation, your wedding website if you have one, and spread through word of mouth.  Good luck!

The thing is a lot of my relatives are old school and wouldn't know to ask about a registry so I'll probably be getting a lot of blenders or dishes (; But at the same time, a lot of my other guests are more formal and savvy. Such as my co-workers, younger family members, BMs, and FI's family even. Eeek should I do it to some and not all?

See, for me, all the weddings I've been to (and my mother/grandmother/FMIL) they all expect for that little card to be in the invite and don't take offense because everyone knows that it is not required to give a gift for a wedding but always appreciated and personally, I love to go shopping for a wedding gift for a couple!  Most people never look at wedding websites, never.  Yes, this day and age people are on the internet a ton but I've heard time and time again that the wedding websites were a waste in the end.  I also know that my mother would rather not field a 50 questions from relatives as to where I'm registered when they can just look at the card I gave them.  It all depends on your crowd.  I think it seems like on the east and west coasts it's typical to not put a card in the invite.  So many people don't know what's etiquette anymore because, well, it's outdated for a lot of stuff and it's stuffy and who wants stuffy for their wedding?!  Not me.  We didn't write on the invite where we were registered but a small card was included that I made myself and was not given to me by the stores, those are ugly.  Oh, also, if you aren't having a bridal shower then it's also hard to include the registry info that way too--which was my case, no bridal shower per my request.  Plus, in my eyes, how is it different to put a card in that invite but not the wedding?  Silly.

It is considered very bad etiquette to mention anything about gifts anywhere on the wedding invitation--even to say no gifts.  The invite is just that, an invitation to an event, not a request for gifts.  The mention of gifts at all can seem greedy or presumptuous.  While I am all for eschewing traditions, I tend to agree with this one.  I once received a wedding invitation--for a destination wedding in another country--and they included an entire separate card with their 4 registries.  I was offended--I felt like they knew I wouldn't be able to attend but they still wanted to make sure I got them a gift.  I ended up just sending a card.  A wedding is not about gifts.  And with wedding websites and word of mouth it's pretty easy to figure out where people are registered.  With a shower I think it's acceptable to include registry information as that party is about gifts, the idea of "showering" the bride with gifts for the new chapter in her life.