(Closed) HPV Genital Warts (tmi) HELP

posted 5 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
Member
340 posts
Helper bee

I am really sorry to hear about this. First off you cannot beat yourself up for having that. An STD doesn’t define you and really it could be much much worse. So many people are in the same boat that have had few few partners and contracted something. Know that you aren’t alone, you don’t deserve it, but also don’t let it define you. You aren’t the disease and anyone worthy of you would look past it. I think you should talk to your doctor and if they aren’t treating you properly then you need to switch to a doctor that specializes in that. Also, if you are planning on marrying him I truly believe down the road this won’t matter. Work together and message me if you need someone to chat with. I am here 🙂

Post # 4
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2106 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

He [probably] was and is a symptomless carrier. Sometimes some people can have STDs and be completely symptomless. Since there is no immune response, STD tests can come up negative. 

Talk with your doctor. He/she can give you better advice than the Internet on how to reduce the frequency and severity of the warts. Then set up an appointment with a counselor. Your SO may not want to talk about it, but you need to be able to talk to someone about it. I also recommend getting him retested. There are other very rare ways to get warts and there’s no way to tell how long you had them before you broke out. Just because it correlated with when you stopped condom use does not mean that was the cause. On the small chance that you did not get the warts from your SO, you’ll need to learn from your doc how to protect yourself when you have sex with your SO again. 

Post # 6
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595 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I was told by the doctor that people can have it and not exhibit physical symptoms for up to 10 years…SO many people have them, something like 80% will be exposed to HPV at some point. As long as your paps come back normal, you’ll be fine. De-stress, eat healthy and take care of yourself and they can go away.

ETA: Not sure, but I don’t think you can get Gardasil once you’ve been exposed, and it doesn’t always work, I still ended up with HPV after getting Gardasil before I was sexually active.

Post # 10
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3122 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

 I am so sorry you’re going through this!  You have every right to feel the way you do and SO obviously really cares about you.  I would suggest finding a support group or online group. I think you need to find someone in the same boat and also someone who has moved past this and seek their advice.  You guys can work through this…you just need to be pissed off for a bit!

HUGS

Post # 12
Member
7908 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

Something like 90% of adults have HPV at some point and most will never know it. Only like 25% will ever have warts from it. Also, you can get HPV from non-intercourse sexual contact, so it’s possible that even though you were a virgin, you got it from someone you just fooled around with or had oral sex with. But that’s kind of immaterial. If you got it from your SO, that doesn’t make either of you dirty. It’s just a reality of life (that luckily the HPV vaccine will make less common). There’s absolutely nothing wrong with you!

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