(Closed) $h*T has hit the fan!!

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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587 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m confused… your sister is paying for your entire reception and your wedding dress yet you asked her to not be part of your pictures? I’m not really clear on your priorities.. No offense but if my sister were to do something so incredibly generous, I’d let her light herself on fire in my pictures!

Post # 4
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7794 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If she’s paying for the reception and for your dress, then you should pay for her dress.

Post # 5
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6893 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’m almost afraid to comment, because I feel like I must be reading this wrong.

Just trying to clarify. She’s paid for your dress and your entire reception, but doesn’t have money for a dress? Also, why is she paying for your reception and your dress?

If the answers are what I think they are, then I think that 1- you should have figured this out when she had time to order one, and maybe there is still time to find something and 2- yeah, it’s kind of rude to tell someone that paid that much that they can’t be part of your wedding.

Post # 6
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1093 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Your sister has been very generous by paying for your wedding gown and reception. Why don’t you offer to pay for her dress? That way you can have her as your MOH in your wedding color.

Post # 7
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3773 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

@nushka:  Agree.

Your sister paid for your dress and is paying for the reception- and you think it is ok to tell her she needs to sit as a guest if she doesn’t have a dress in the right color.  I hope she takes the money for your reception and buys a great dress in the correct color.

Post # 9
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181 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You are absolutely out of line asking her to ‘sit down’ because of a shade difference after everything she’s done. Buy her dress.

 

If my sister did anything like that for me, I’d let her wear a peacock headress if that’s what she wanted.

Post # 10
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578 posts
Busy bee

oh my.. In my opinion, since she has done so much for you, if you are really that insistent on her wearing your wedding colors then you should buy her dress for her. Or else, deal with her being in the wedding with colors that aren’t your wedding colors. 

Not to sound mean… I just feel like she is your sister, your MOH, has paid for your dress AND reception…. and you won’t let her in the pictures because she doesn’t have enough money left to buy the dress you want her to. not exactly kind of you.

I think you should buy her dress for her, or let her wear whatever she wants. and then thank her profusely for all of her generosity

Post # 11
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4327 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

I will chime in and say why not buy her dress for her as a gesture of gratitude for her generosity? That way it will be in the color YOU want, and not stress her out any more. 

Even if you don’t, I think you’re being a little rigid in asking her to only be a guest over a dress. She has been beyond nice with helping your wedding vision come to pass.

Post # 13
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181 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@SherylAA:  ‘It was only a suggestion’

 

It was a horrible, ungrateful, rude suggestion.

Post # 14
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6893 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Wrkn925:  <– What she said.

You realize that it’s pretty rude after all she’s done for you, right? Regardless of what shade dress or whatever.

Post # 15
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1705 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

IAnn sorry but I think you are wrong here. She has done so much for you and your wedding. It doesn’t matter if her dress doesn’t match. 

 

Post # 16
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102 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Sorry your feeling this way and I am also sorry for saying what i want to say. I dont want to hurt your feelings but i really think you are a little out of line here. She is your sister, she is paying for everything, including your dress and reception. Thats a HUGE gesture from her and if my sister did that for me I’d think i would just about be happy if she turned up nude for all i care! I really wouldnt be hard on what she is wearing. She is doing so much for you and for your wedding day, It’s no wonder she has no money left for a dress for herself. She is acting so selflessly and you are now not allowing her to be in your wedding photos. If that was my sister she would be right up front and center. Step outside the crazy wedding world and see things for how they are. When you do, come back to earth and apologise to her. 🙂

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