Post # 1
So, in another thread, I noticed a lot of ladies making the statement that “guys don’t typically discuss their (married) sex lives with their buddies.”
…and I found that odd.
Guys talk about sex. That’s a given.
…and I know for a fact that DH’s buddies share details about their sex lives with him (and I don’t doubt he doesn’t share details of our sex life with them too). This doesn’t bother me.
So, do you think your DH talks to his buddies about his sex life? Do you care?
Post # 2
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I know DH talks to his friends about our sex life – the main reason because he tells me anecdotes from work or going out with them, and I don’t mind at all. I think it’s natural for guys to have these lines of communication. I also think it’s healthy for guys to be open and discuss their relationships with other guys – in turn, helping them communicate with their wives.
Post # 3
urchin: My husband is a fairly private person, but I think it depends on the guy. I would imagine that most men would talk about their sex lives, however some may divulge more details than others. I personally don’t care one way or another.
Post # 4
I have no idea if DH talks about our sex life or not…it wouldn’t bother me unless he demeaned me in his guy convos. I never really thought about it, tbh, but DH is really private about such thing. He only has one really close guy friend here, and we usually hang out as two couples, so it’s not likely.
Post # 5
FutureDrAtkins: This is how I feel too. There are certain topics that I will tell him he is not to discuss (just specific things about me, for instance).
Otherwise, I don’t care. He often comes to me and tells me about some of the things they talk about, and I give him advice from a woman’s perspective (like if one of his buddies is being a douche and doesn’t realize it, I will explain that from the standpoint of a woman, he is being stupid).
Post # 6
As long as he’s discussing how great it is and how FANTASTIC I am in bed I dont see a problem with it
There are definitely some things thats are off limits and I’m pretty sure SO knows that but if he feels he needs to talk something out with a friend who am I to say he can’t considering I’d do the same with a girlfriend?
Post # 7
It wouldn’t bother me. But I really don’t think he does. My husband is more reserved about discussing personal things like that with others. He just laughs at me when I tell him I divulged to a girlfriend.
Post # 8
I know DH did when he went on his stag do with two of his best friends. It doesn’t bother me. I think it’s healthy to have an outlet. I’ve talked to my best friend about my sex life. I wouldn’t give every detail, and I’d certainly maintain privacy over sensitive issues (fetish he was shy about or something). I expect the same from him.
We would only discuss it with our closest friends though. If he were giving out details to everyone at work, that would be another issue.
Post # 9
Coworkers no, his friends maybe. I just asked my husband and he said “no why? do you want me to?” Haha .
I think that the difference was The OP stated it was a colleague of his not a friend.
Post # 10
urchin: I also disagreed with those statements. Idk if DH discusses our sex life with friends, but it wouldn’t surprise me. I discuss it with my BFFs.
Post # 11
urchin: Funnily enough I know for a fact my dh doesn’t. He has declared point blank to me on many occasions that they don’t discuss their sex lives, they’d rather talk cars, cricket, rugby or some other sport. I have joked about it with his friends before and they all agree they might jokingly say oh I got some this morning but literally that’s all and it is only a rare occasion when they are playing around and generally giving each other crap…
Post # 12
My FI has a pretty large friends group, and they tend to call each other on the phone like you’d expect of teenage girls in the 90s (though most of the conversation has to do with sports, not lipgloss). I wouldn’t be at all surprised if our sex life comes up when they hang out, since I know the single guys talk about their exploits quite a bit.
Post # 13
FI absolutely does not. His buddy for years mentioned sex one time, and it was only because he and his wife had a serious sexual issue, and he needed to confide in someone.
Post # 14
urchin: I think what people were talking about in the other thread was the WAY sex was being talked about. I can’t ever in my wildest dreams imagine one of FI’s friends asking him, about ME: “did you sleep with her??” And him replying “yeah, it was quick.”
That, IMO, just doesn’t happen. It’s assumed that significant others are gonna knock boots, why ask specifically about it? Unless you are a weird voyeur, that doesn’t count as random bro-talk.
I know my FI has talked to our friends (all his male friends, save one, are guys I’ve been close friends with for over a decade) about our sex life, but only in vague terms! I’m okay with that. Details, no thanks!
Post # 15
I highly, highly doubt he does. Maybe back when he was just dating girls or having fun in college, but I really don’t think my husband wants people to know what’s going on in our sex life. He’s very private when it comes to things about me and I just can’t see him doing that.