- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
So…Once again, DH attempted to reach out to his mother. (LOng story short, she hates me and I haven’t seen her or spoken to her for 7 months save for 2 very long and nasty emails she wrote me that I never replied to). He called her on friday and she didn’t call back all weekend.
He tried again yesterday and just as I guessed it, she answered the phone because it was during the work day and she knew I was not with him.
He asked her “why am I always calling you? Why do I never hear from you unless you need something from me? When are you going to contact my wife like I asked you to?”
Apprently, she’s the angry one as he has been neglecting her. NOT TRUE. The poor guy has bent over backwards all his life to cater to her and jump when she asked him to jump. He most recently has seen her on June 30th.
Lately, yes, he’s been distant but that’s because he’s hurt just as much as I’m hurt about her treatment of me.
So she went on and on telling him he’s wrong and they (MIL and FIL) are right. Typical.
She said “I haven’t heard from your wife either”. He told her, why would she reach out to you since the last words you said to her were “Do not reply to this email, it will go unread and deleted”. He said “You told her she dosen’t exist in your eyes!”
She finally took the claws out and said “fine. If you don’t want to see me, I will do everything around here myself” (I.e, house chores).
He said “Fine!”
And that was that. But I could see how hurt he was when he told me what was said yesterday. I asked him if there is anything he wants me to do and he said “No, we’ve done enough and this isn’t the first time she pulls this crap. If we keep giving in, she will keep this cycle going over and over again. She has to come to us now”.
I am not holding my breath that she will.
If anyone has any thoughts or advice on this, that’d be great. Mostly, I’m just venting about how much I hate her. How much I can’t believe that her love for her son is conditional on what he can do for her. I asked him if she enquired about me and he said no. No surprise there! She hates my guts.
So we will not be going to the family reunion this weekend. She accused him of neglecting his family by doing so which again is BS. We see his cousin and are going to his other cousin’s baby shower. The rest of the family is as wacko as she is. Despite that, it’s not like he used to see them all the time before he met me. No one ever called my hubby for dinners or what not unless they needed something from him.
I hope one day she realizes she pushed us both away because I really don’t want this for hubby. His heart is too big.