Post # 1
I suffer from terrible PMS. My water retention and breast pain is no match for my unprovoked crying jags. I am able to hold it together while I am work but when I come home, all bets are off and I let myself cry. I’m a big baby…I know.
This morning I was weeping in bed and my husband was so sweet. I started to get up in order to hide in the bathroom because I prefer to cry in private. My husband doesn’t like that habit at all. I’ve learned to hide my tears because I was always severely scolded or beaten when I cried growing up. One of the first things I did when I escaped that environment was weep profusely in my little rented room. Those tears felt like such a luxury because I was finally free to weep all I wanted without fear of being being hit or judged.
So as I got up to leave our bed, my husband opened his arms and said “Lie on my chest and let it out Cookie. I want you to share your tears with me so that I can help them go away.”
My heart melted and I let my husband comfort me the way he wanted to. It is wonderful to be have a partner that I can be vulnerable with. It’s the little moments that make a strong marriage. After my husband cuddled me as I cried, he went out and bought me a chocolate chip muffin. I didn’t cry for the rest of the day. My husband is helping me start running for fitness and we had a great run tonight; I was running much faster and with far less pain. My husband times me, carries my water bottle and encourages me to keep going. He also gives me pointers when my calves start to ache. I love having my husband coach me because he is very patient and he has completed the Seattle Marathon. My husband has never pressured me to run with him; I just felt like I wanted to be healthier and I wanted to share a hobby with my husband.
Just wanted to share a sweet moment with my Bees.
Post # 2
- Wedding: October 2014 - Brussels, Belgium
Aww that is so sweet. Your husband sounds amazing 🙂
Post # 4
That’s so sweet, you guys sound like a great match 🙂
Post # 5
PositiveThinking: That is so sweet!!!! So happy for you 🙂 Sounds like a wonderful man, and you sound like you’re just as wonderful of a wife 🙂
Post # 6
oh my goooood! so sweet ;u; <3
Post # 8
That is very sweet of your hubby.
When I’m PMSing sometimes I do suffer from irritability or being extra emotional, but not to the extent of crying uncontrollably every cycle. You shouldn’t have to suffer like this. Have you seen a doctor?
Post # 9
I cry, without fail, every month. Not completely unprovoked, but definitely not my normal self. Things just seem more upsetting when I’m PMSing! So I understand where you’re coming from. Your DH sounds just like my FI — enjoy that unconditional love, I’m so glad to hear you’re letting yourself open up to him 🙂
Post # 10
Yes I have. Thanks for asking babes.
I am already on medication for other issues, so taking additional medication for severe PMS is a big no-no. I find that Tylenol Menstrual works wonders, though I don’t like the idea of taking even more pills. Midol will also cause a negative drug interaction.
Perhaps I should look into vitamins or other natural treatments.
Post # 11
Awww thanks so much. To be honest, I don’t think I deserve my husband. He deserves someone who is less screwed up. However, I know I have some lovely qualities despite being damaged goods.
My husband has a lot of admiration for how hard I have worked to be emotionally healthy despite my past. I have seen therapists and used journaling to sort out my feelings. I have also made amazing strides in terms of emotional maturity and anger management since we met seven years ago.
Post # 12
PositiveThinking: I didn’t mean it in a negative way at all. I don’t think anyone should have to suffer so severely due to their cycle.
I hope you find some relief but in the mean time you are lucky to have such a strong support system! It’s good you’re able to start letting him see you vulnerable. I used to hate letting FI see when I was upset, but it hurt him when I wouldn’t let him comfort me. I started letting him and now it’s such a relief to me.
Post # 13
I thought your question was very caring and intelligent; I didn’t take it negatively at all.
That’s why I said “Thanks for asking babes”.
Post # 14
PositiveThinking: Omg this is the sweetest thing!!! I think this is a quality all men should have or put effort into doing! I would do anything for my man to be thoughtful like this!
Post # 15
Nikkimcq: cls9q: LoveMyBrit: barrogten: damarajade: I had to go to another city for work two days in a row. They were both day trips. My husband drove me to the commuter train station, so that I wouldn’t have to waste money on a cab or take unreliable public transit. He also waited with me on the platform. When I boarded the train, my husband actually stood on the platform until the train pulled away. It was so sweet and romantic.
I often try to tell my hubby that he doesn’t have to spoil me the way he does. Before I was with him, I did many things without help from anyone. My husband doesn’t like it when I tell him not to baby me. His Love Language is Acts of Service, so when I try to do everything on my own it hurts my husband’s feelings. I just don’t want to be a burden to him or rely on him too much.