- 3 years ago
- Wedding: November 2014
I just found out my FI has $8000 in debt that he borrowed from his brother. And thats not the worst bit, the $8000 debt is actually after he has paid alot of it off.
His brother had to get a personal loan to help us out in a situation I didnt even know exist!!
I know things are a bit tight right now, we dont get take out unless we save up for it, we go to free activities for the kids and we DIY and sew as much as we can. I try to be as fruga as I can.
A few years ago we had some money issues, which I thought was about $5000. We where young and thought we could afford more than we could and lived beyond our income – its what credit cards where made for we reasond.
But we learnt our lesson, well I though we learnt our lesson.
I am soo disapointed and my I cant look at my FI without feeling sad and angry.
This year was to be OUR year, debt all paid and done, me looking for a job as we can now afford day care as 3 out of 4 will be at school.
I am paying for our wedding 100% of it. My Mum and Dad havent offered to help, my MIL hasnt offered too. Which I am greatful for, I hate handouts and I love how they are respecting me and our independance.
But now I am freaking out over school fees, Wedding costs, bills, getting a job and running a household.
I just dont know what to do, where to turn, who to ask for advice, who to ask for help.
It is so much easier to talk to my fellow Bee’s as this forum wont be seen by any of my family and friends. I just cant admit to them that we are over our heads and I have to clue how to handle the situation.
I love my FI and we are great together, best friends, soul mates, for each of our faults the other has strength. We really are Ying and Yang.
Any advice? Tips? A similar story with a happy ending?